Any ideas for what a 9 year old could do at our wedding? She wants to be a flower girl.

When my cousin and I were nine, we were in charge of handing out programs before the ceremony and bubbles at the end of the ceremony. Not gonna lie we felt pretty badass

I would pick the two closest to you and make them flower girls. My niece was 9 and a FG in my wedding, I know she's on the cusp of being a little to old for it but screw it. I made sure her dress was age appropriate and she loved every minute.

( please don't do any of those stupid signs, god I hate those tacky POS. lol)

Honestly, I would pick none of them. 4 disappointed little girls would be too much for me.

They shouldn't THINK they are going to be in it. if they are disappointed that's because their parents told them they would be in it. Little kids don't know about this stuff. So the parents can deal with their disappointed children and tell them they over did their bounds by saying their child would be in the wedding.

Does corralling 6 kids under the age of 10 sound fun to you? If so, do it! If not, don't have any of them. I would rather have no disappointed kids than 4 disappointed ones.

If you're having programs, handing out programs is fun for some kids that age. I would never assign an adult for a task like that, but for kids that age it makes them feel important and special.

Wow, I think if I had 6 little girls who all wanted to be in my wedding I'd have 0 flower girls. There is no way I could choose, and no way I'd scramble to find jobs for 6 children.

I'm with Kathryn. I have a hard time imagining a 3, 4, or 5 year old being that caught up in the flower girl vision. This is probably more about the parents than the girls. If you floated the possibility to the parents of all six girls, then you'll have to take some responsibility; but, even then, I'd just apologize for jumping the gun and skip the flower girl (because the parents of the girls you don't select will be irritated if you choose one or two and not the others).

I'd choose none. Where would they even get the idea to be flower girls in the first place? Was that their parents or did you and your future husband say something to them? If it's their parents fault let them deal with it. However if it's because of you and Future Husband you would probably need to put all 6 of them in there.

Hi Elizabeth, yeah 9 is a tough in-between age. My SIL's were 9 when I got married, and they couldn't decide if they wanted to be bridesmaids or flower girls (they wanted to be grown up bridesmaids but they were so tempted by the fluffiness of flower girl dresses!). We went shopping together and they decided they wanted to be bridesmaids, some would call that a junior bridesmaid. Some dress places even sell junior bridesmaid dresses. Since you said you especially need something for the 9 year old that might be an option to consider if you're especially close to her.

You can also have any number of them process in, and then sit with their families so you don't have to worry about chaos during your ceremony. They may enjoy carrying in some flowers and getting all the attention for a minute, but it is a lower-risk alternative to making them stand up front, and they could even wear their own dresses to cut down on costs if that is a concern.

She can be a flower girl; why not?

I love kids in weddings and think if you want them all, have them all. Age means nothing nowadays. You can your 9 month old, 9 year old or 90 year old be your flower girl.

Ushers or jr. Bridesmaids

FH has a 4 year old niece who wanted so badly to be a flower girl. She doesn't know what a flower girl is, but her cousin in a flower girl in a wedding later this month and saw her special dress so his niece knows its something really special. Same with my 9 year old cousin (although I partly have grandma to blame for this one, since grandma told the 9 year old i would probably ask without talking to me). So I think it is totally possible to have a girl that age who is caught up in wanting to be a flower girl. We aren't having a traditional processional, so there is really nothing for a flower girl to do at our wedding. We made both girls "flower girls", they bought dresses in the same color, and I'm getting flower crowns for both of them. They get to feel special, and it wasn't really out of my way to make them happy.

Giving the 9 year old a "grown up task" such as handing out programs/coloring books may make her feel super special and important, more so than throwing flowers down an aisle with a 3 year old. But then again, she may love to get all dressed up in a poofy dress and walk down the aisle.

Nine is an awkward age where they want to be "all grown up" but at the same time still enjoy "little girl" things. Sit down and talk to her, learn her interests, and come up with something from there!

Six flower girls sounds adorable! To me, because I don't have to deal with them, their moms, their dresses and gifts.

No flower girls sounds perfect, unless you had your heart set on one (or more).

Are you having a Catholic ceremony? When I was 9/10 (I don't remember for sure) my brother and I carried down the gifts and it made my day to be a part of it. Like other PP's have said too, you can have them all walk together (the 9 year old can hold the 3 year old hand to make sure she makes it down the aisle) or have her hand out programs. I think a group in cute dresses would be cute, then just have them sit with their parents.

My flower girls are 8 and when I asked them the squealed with excitement and then one of them asked me "what does that mean, what are we going to actually do?

And the 4 year old I have known since she was 10 weeks old has asked me who is going to be our flower girl at least 10 time since 3 months ago when she was a flower girl at her uncles wedding. And I know for a fact her parents would not say that to her (I had a convo with her mom about the other girls and their dresses). Its very possible for a girl that age to "come up" with the idea without help from parents.

I love the idea buying them wearing matching dresses and help hand out programs or escort people to their seat. But all in all they can all be flower girls

If you want them in the wedding, what about child attendants like they did for Princess Diana and The Duchess of Cambridge did?

If that won't work, I vote for the jobs of giving out programs, things like that.