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BeachBride
VIP June 2017

Any Catholics feeling guilty?

BeachBride, on August 12, 2016 at 9:57 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 43

I was raised Catholic, go to church on holidays and probably 4 or 5 other Sundays throughout the year. Definitely not devout. I am confirmed and baptized. FH is baptized Catholic but not confirmed and never went to church before meeting me. My Catholic Church won't allow us to get married there...

I was raised Catholic, go to church on holidays and probably 4 or 5 other Sundays throughout the year. Definitely not devout. I am confirmed and baptized. FH is baptized Catholic but not confirmed and never went to church before meeting me. My Catholic Church won't allow us to get married there because he isn't confirmed. The church across town will but I am not a fan of their priest. He did my friends wedding and I thought he was actually pretty rude during the ceremony. So we booked a little white historical church that is now a museum. I keep going back to wanting a Catholic wedding. I'm sure it is Catholic guilt but it does bother me that we aren't getting married in an actual church by a priest. I don't know if I should forfeit our deposit and go with the priest that I don't really like just so we can get married in a Catholic Church.

Are there any other Catholic brides that are feeling the guilt for not getting married in a church?

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  • FutureMrsBuchanan
    VIP May 2017
    FutureMrsBuchanan ·
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    I found a travelling Catholic priest who agreed to marry me at my venue. I thought it was a good compromise. My venue is too far from my church so this was my alternative

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  • K
    Savvy September 2017
    Katie ·
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    I'm a confirmed Catholic and so is FH but we both aren't practicing. I would consider myself more of just a practicing Christian than hardcore Catholic. We are not getting married in the church but outside at our venue. Honestly I found our officiant and he is a retired priest, he will be incorporating a lot of religious aspects into the ceremony (not a full mass though which I never really wanted). You should ask yourself what parts of the Catholic mass you think you are missing out on and really analyze it. If it's certain prayers or songs, there's nothing that is stoping you from using those. If it's the physical structure of the building than there might not be anything to do about that.

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  • Lindsay
    Just Said Yes June 2022
    Lindsay ·
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    I'm Catholic and I'm committed to my church. I thought about having a church wedding, but at the end of the day there's many factors why I decided against it. It's a summer wedding and my church is small (I might pass out), with Covid going and having a big wedding I didn't want to risk it. Even though my fiancée says its my day and it's about what I want...it's OUR day and I know it's not what he would want either. I have always dreamed of an outdoor wedding 🌿🌷🌺🌻🍀
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