Any Brides with Anxiety?

Yes - and I am worried about the day of. FH keeps reminding me not to stress about the details, and that end the end, we will be married no matter what. Which is true - but just like Spazzy said, I keep thinking about, "omg - what if this happens, or that happens..."

I'm trying to do as much as I can now to get things out of the way so I don't have as many things to stress about come June. Fingers crossed for all of us!

@Spazzy described my life. I am constantly thinking the worse. Like things so far gone. And I over analyze EVERYTHING! Honestly I think my DOC will be a HUGE help hopefully. And me and FH are doing a 1st touch. He doesn't want to see me before the wedding but I NEED to have that interaction with him before hand to calm me down. He has been the only person successful in all these years lol. So the 1st touch is a compromise.

I totally understand! My anxiety is currently mostly under control but I know what it's like. Sometimes the best thing you can do is sit down with FH and go through the worst case scenarios. "What if I pass out in the front of the ceremony" answer "well you pass out and I catch you, passing out doesn't do any permanent damage to you, we all wait for you to come to, make sure everything is OK and carry on with the ceremony when your ready, you're surrounded by people who love you" just one example. Sometimes the best way to work through the anxious fear, has been for me, mentally facing it and coming up with a plan if it did happen.

As for being overwhelmed, maybe have a plan set up where there is a quiet spot you and FH can go to if things get overwhelming. You can let your DJ know that if he sees you leave the room, to announce something like, everyone get on the dance floor to do the chicken dance (jk jk just an example)

I do. The wedding day I started getting really overwhelmed while eating lunch so I had to take a breather and regroup. Don't be afraid to take some natural anxiety relief like rescue remedy or take your prescription meds if you have them. It got worse for me when there was downtime - so I tried to keep busy by dancing around or talking to my BM. The rest of the day went by so fast that I didn't have time to sit and over analyze thankfully!

You are not the only one who is nervous and anxious about being the center of attention! I have my shower tomorrow, and I know I am going to be so overwhelmed by having to be "on" for a few hours in front of everyone, looking at me and waiting for my reaction to their gifts. At the same time, I am so grateful for everyone's generosity and can't wait to see some of my friends and cousins who I don't see often. My plan for the shower is to make sure I don't make any plans for afterwards so I can decompress by myself for a while. try to do the same with your wedding - don't have anything crazy planned for the next day. Schedule alone time before the wedding as well. At the wedding, maybe have a "safe word" with your spouse and MOH so they know when to whisk you away to a private space for a few minutes to help you calm down. Good luck!!

I don't really know how I'm going to deal with anxiety yet. I already warned my priest that I might pass out at some point; everyone tells me "oh, you'll be fine" or "don't even worry about it" because they think I'm kidding about passing out during the ceremony, but they have no idea what it's like. I absolutely hate attention. The thought of over 100 people watching me walk down the aisle overwhelms me to the point where I want to throw up just thinking about it. Whenever I feel like too many people are paying attention to me or I'm nervous, my entire neck gets stiff to the point where I can't even move it without shaking. Yet I do absolutely fine when I'm teaching....

I have Severe GAD. I have a therapy dog and take multiple medications. I suggest talking to a doctor. Especially if you haven't been diagnosed. I might be something different from anxiety and they will have a better grasp on how to help you deal with this. I have this medication that I take everyday and then a medication that I take "for special occasions" haha. So if you only have anxiety in social engagements, they might give you that medication. I also suggest looking into therapy. A lot of people can overcome their social anxiety with therapy and no medication. So seek medical help first because everyone is different and deals with anxiety differently.

I am in the same boat as you. I am terrified of the ceremony and havign everyone look at me. I think this is common for alot of brides but if you suffer from anxiety on a regular basis its amplified. I am going to actually mention to my doctor about this and see if there is anything they can give me for those situations. I dont need to be medicated daily but in those situations having something would help.

hang in there, we will all get through this!

It does make me feel better to know I'm not the only one! Honestly, my anxiety is under control for the most part. I do really well day-to-day because I have more control over how many social events I go to, and how much alone time I get. I'm just nervous about the big day because I'll have to be "on" the whole time. It really does take a lot of energy out of me. (Don't even get me started on the bridal shower.. I hate it when people watch me open presents!)

I think I will just go through the scenarios that are making me nervous and make a back-up plan--having a way to get away from everything for a few minutes is a really good idea. And I don't think we'll be leaving right away for the honeymoon, it could be a few days to a week later. I just hope that I don't let my anxiety get in way of me enjoying the day. I focus so much on what could happen, or what I think other people expect from me (lots of socializing and dancing) that I sometimes don't enjoy myself in the moment.

Thank you for the advice, and the reassurance. And for being so nice about it!

I have anxiety as well. I'm trying to make the day as low stress as possible. I know that if any of the details go wrong and I find out about it, I'll be devastated, so we hired a DOC. I know seeing FH before the ceremony will help me feel less anxious, so we're doing a first look and I'll spend the night at home before the wedding instead of staying at a hotel like originally planned. Figure out what your stresses are and then make plans to alleviate them. If you stress is really bad, see a psychiatrist and see if they can give you medication. I have klonopin that I take as needed now, and I will probably take one before the wedding.

I have anxiety, but I take Xanax. Life is peaches and creme when you're on Xanax. My doctor is going to prescribe something that's not as addicting for every day use. Right now I take a Xanax when I feel like gouging someone's eyes out and I'm on cloud 9 in 15 minutes.

HAHA AlexisM082,,, this ones for you!

I was just prescribed Xanax yesterday, glad to know they work quickly.

I feel like I need them but dont know how to go abotu asking the doctor? I dont want to be medicated on a regular basis but in stressful situations where I am likelyt o have an attack. Id like to have them. What did you say to your dr?

I went into my regular primary care physician and I told her that I get really anxious and I need help. When I'm at work, I can't exactly just walk out to take a walk and when I get home, swimming doesn't help and neither does jogging. I just flat out told her I need help. She put me on the baby Xanax (.25 mg) and told me to come back in a month.

@Lydia Little tip... If you chew the Xanax, it hits you like... Right away.

I need to find a primary care dr. I am going to the gyno on Tuesday. Ill talk to her maybe she can prescribe something. Worth a try I guess.