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Any August Brides Still Holding Onto Hope?

April, on May 19, 2020 at 8:07 AM Posted in Community Conversations 1 24
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I don't know what to do!!!

Our August 8th wedding is on for the moment, but I keep having a battle internally about holding onto hope or jumping the gun and postponing while it's early. We have a back up date at our venue of Sept 25th, 2021. If we do postpone until next year, FH and I will have a wedding ceremony with our immediate family on our original date, and have a vow renewal next year with our big reception.

All of our family members think we should be fine by August and they're telling us to keep going forward. We haven't send out invitations yet (which should've been done last month). I would just hate to send out the invitations and then cancel the wedding (and eat the cost of postage!)


Are any other August brides holding onto hope?

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Latest activity by Angel, on May 20, 2020 at 3:03 PM
  • Caila
    Devoted August 2020
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    Yes! I am August 1 and we are holding strong and our friends are Aug. 14 in same area and they haven't changed yet. We don't plan to make any decisions until end of June -- a lot can change so fast with this virus! In our area things are starting to open up! We know some might not come because they don't feel comfortable and that is okay! I would still send out your invites if I was you.. we added a little note in ours about the situation.

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  • April
    Dedicated September 2021
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    Yeah that's very true! Our governor in Vermont extended the stay at home order until June 15th, and up the gathering restrictions from 10 people to 25. He's opening up retailers slowly, but salons and close contact businesses haven't been opened yet. I'm hoping I will still be able to get my alterations done in time!

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  • Erin
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    I’m in Michigan, and we have also decided to wait a little longer for decisions on our August 8th wedding. Yesterday, our governor announced that 2 less affected regions could reopen with restrictions this Friday. Although we are in the hardest hit region, this gave us some hope.
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  • Christine
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    I am August 1 and still holding onto hope! 🤞🏼🤞🏼
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  • Amanda
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    August 2nd here! I am with you I don’t wanna jump the gun and than everything turns out to be okay. I am going to hold out until at least middle of June to make a final decision. I hope it works out for all of us!
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    Devoted August 2020
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    I am August 29 in southeast PA, and it's pretty bad here. But, I'm addressing the invitations, and I'm sending them out anyway. They will be going out this week. They have an insert to hold our soft date if we need to postpone. I don't really think of it as eating the postage, since I'd have to send them out anyway - plus, they'll have the location details to save for later if we do postpone.

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  • April
    Dedicated September 2021
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    Awesome! We're in VT so we haven't seen big numbers like other states. I'm glad there are other brides out there holding on too!

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  • April
    Dedicated September 2021
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    Me too- no bride should feel like they have to make sacrifices to make their wedding day what they want. I would rather have a small ceremony and postpone our reception than cut our guest list down.

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  • April
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    I will probably do the same- send a soft hold date with the invitation and tell everyone we'll keep them posted.

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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    I'm in Texas, and our venue announced last week that they're going through with their late June weddings. There will be restrictions of course, but my father in law, who is a doctor, said that it might not get better for a few years. So we really don't want to postpone and will probably preserve for our 8/15 Dallas wedding of about 30 according to the venue's guidelines. At this point, it's just a matter of going through with what we can. We postponed once and don't want to - we're having this for our families and because we can't get our money back.



    But honestly? I would stay the course. You have no idea what June and July will look like. Unless you really want a huge wedding with all the trimmings, I would keep your date. But that's just me - I'm over being engaged and want to be married.
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  • April
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    We've been engaged since August 2018- and we're over it too! I really want the whole wedding experience, big wedding, dancing, good food. I've always wanted a big traditional wedding. Our guest list is at 160 people, which is about 50% venue capacity. The ceremony will be held outside, so hopefully things will work out. I would just hate to keep our date and have my grandparents decline the invite for fear of the virus, but I totally understand nobody will know what next year will bring too.

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  • Caila
    Devoted August 2020
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    Our governor doesn't even have a "reopening plan" out -- which is frustrating! We are still at 10 for gatherings but her emergency proclamation is to end next week, so we are waiting to see what she says there. It is so frustrating with the unknown! I don't want to keep waiting and waiting to get married. Some say to wait until a vaccine or that weddings will never be the same, but a vaccine might not be for 1.5-2 years!!

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  • Kathryn
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    My grandma will probably decline, and at this point it's just the nature of the beast. We expect everyone but our immediate families to decline, and we're ok with that. If everything wasn't paid off, we probably would go with just our elopement and be done with it, but we were two weeks out when Covid officially hit and we were forced to postpone. If people show, great. I want to wear my dress and have a day with our families, but that's for us. No one knows what's going to happen! Hopefully things work out for you.
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  • April
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    Right!! I tried emailing our governor a couple times too see what he thinks about a 160 person gathering in August... he didn't reply but I figured if I don't try I won't know!

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  • Caila
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    I forgot to comment on the alterations! I had such a big stress about this!! The place I got my dress usually does 3 fittings (my first was supposed to be in April).. I have had to make due with 2 instead. My first one is on June 4th. Have you been in contact with the place you got your dress or whoever is doing your alterations?

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  • Caila
    Devoted August 2020
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    True!! I can't find an email for ours, but if it gets closer I might have to try and call to see their thoughts on reception gatherings! We would even be okay if our venue was only allowed 50% since our venue holds 400-450!

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  • April
    Dedicated September 2021
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    There's a lady who lives in our town that has done prom dresses and bridesmaid dresses for our family and myself in the past. I purchased my dress from David's Bridal, so I'd rather have someone local do my alterations versus David's. We haven't contacted her yet- but that will be my next step!

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  • Caila
    Devoted August 2020
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    Yes, I would just reach out and see when she would be comfortable doing alterations Smiley smile Sending positive vibes to you that everything works out for your big day!

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  • April
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    Thank you- you too!!

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  • M
    Savvy May 2020
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    We are going through with our mid-August wedding no matter what. We already postponed from May. Our venue emailed us saying they will begin having weddings again in late June. They outlined all the safety precautions they are putting in place (touch-free hand sanitizer stations all over venue, putting fewer people at each table which will be more spread out, servers and bartenders wearing masks and gloves, making the dance floor bigger, only allowing so many people on dance floor at a time, social distancing, etc.). Guests can of course wear masks if they want to. We are going to buy masks in case anyone wants one. While none of this sounds like the wedding we originally planned, it is what it is and we will make the best of it! This virus isn’t going away anytime soon, and we have to learn to live with it as safely as possible. I know a lot of people won’t feel safe coming, and that is 100% fine and completely understandable.
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