Any advice?

The bridesmaids really only are required to be in the right attire and smile for pictures. You shouldn't fire them to find "better help" that's a friendship ending move. You know they have their own lives and responsibilities.

Your bridesmaids aren’t your employees, they’re your friends. Asking someone to be a bridesmaid isn’t hiring them, it’s really just a title of honor symbolizing what their friendship means to you. All they are obligated to do is buy a dress and stand next to you at the ceremony. You really shouldn’t have expectations of them beyond that, because really nothing else is their responsibility. I know tv shows and movies and stuff give a lot of false impressions about bridal parties being super involved in planning but... the reality is, most people don’t have time for that. Many brides (myself included) plan a wedding perfectly fine with no help from their bridesmaids. I planned about 95% of our wedding singlehandedly. My mom and now-husband helped a tiny bit but it was mostly me. It’s no ones responsibility to plan the wedding other than yourself and your fiancé.

Your bridesmaids aren't required to help you. The only person required to help you is your fiance. The only job the bridesmaids have are to buy the dress you want and to stand up with you at your wedding. It sounds like you need to adjust your expectations. My recommendation is to take a day to research the vendors that you still need and contact them. As for a dress you are kind of behind on that. Most places take 9 months to a year to get a dress in. I would look on Azazie which offers the option to try on dresses before you buy them. You can also get bridesmaids dresses there. You could also ask your venue for recommendations for vendors as a lot of them have a preferred vendor list.

I get it is frustrating but booking those things are you and your fhs job. Did you mention to the ladies that you wanted these things? Realistically you could plan your own bachelorette party. Your mom could host the shower. These ladies may not know what you're thinking. I think take today to book those venues with your fh, set up a cake tasting. Maybe ask your ladies to meet for brunch and make bachelorette plans and maybe they will take over but they're not required to. I don't think it's bad to nicely say that you want to have a bachelorette and you would like set a date and make plans.

Thanks everyone for the advice

If you want someone to plan your wedding, hire a wedding planner. That’s not what your bridal party is for.

OP, deep breaths. Calm down. Did you ask MOH and BM to help recently? It's Holiday season. They have kids and families. Of course they can't help right now. And as others said, it's not their responsibility to do so. If they can, great! But really you and FH should be handling it.

Bachelorettes and Showers aren't necessities. They are nice to have, but you'll still get gifts without a shower. And it's a bit early to be planning a bachelorette unless you expect them to plan a weekend getaway or something.

If the two of you can't afford the wedding you are planning without FH working every available second that he can get, maybe you should consider cutting back. Go for a cheaper meal package, use silk flowers and consider renting them, have a beer/wine bar instead of a full open bar. cut the guest list down... cutting expenses will allow FH to be around more to help you, and less expense overall will cut your stress levels down.

Congrats to you and FH! It will all come to together for you, and your big day will be wonderful.

I'm less than 3 months out. This month I plan to harass my alterations lady since she's had my dress for 2 months. And I've had no fittings.
My flowers... I ordered them at the beginning of December. Heard nothing.
My bridal shower... no idea. His family is taking care of it, but nothing has been planned. Except for the month and the day of the week.I just finally caught wind that my bachlorette party is being planned. And I just had a minor freakout about cupcakes while I was in the shower. [I need to order but was told not to until 1 week out.]My blunt advice is to keep your bridesmaids and step up your own game. This is your wedding, and no one is as excited about it as you.

As everyone else has said, your bridal party is not responsible for planning your wedding. It sounds like you need a wedding planner. You also need to start dress shopping ASAP. With only 5 months until you wedding, you will have limited options at this point. You and your fiancé need to plan a day or a weekend to work on wedding related stuff so that you can check the remaining items off your list and don’t get too stressed out.

Breathe - you got this . Start dress search ASAP. Email all florists in your area that fit your budget. And lastly a bakery.
I’m sorry you are so stressed, it isn’t any of the BMs faults or responsibilities to have done any of these things - it’s okay and you have time so straighten your crown, grab a pen and paper and get researching ! You can do it !