Anxious Bride :(

I definitely think that the weight of a large life step like this leaves room for worry and doubt. I find myself noticing the small things too, sometimes, and my mind starts snowballing them. But I think that fear is natural! If you start not wanting to marry him, that's one thing, but being nervous for your day is what we all go through Whenever you feel really down, just try to remember all the things and reasons why you love your FH. Why you fell in love. How and where and when you knew he'd be the one. It'll sooth your anxiety a little bit (at least it does for me). Meanwhile, don't feel alone. We've all got your back as fellow brides

I think it’s all the stress and pressures of the day and the image of what love and perfection is that has been presented to us in the media. Couples are supposed to be a perfect fit, argue infrequently up and make up quickly. They are supposed to be 100% sure if there love have butterflies every moment and be beautiful or strive to be all the time. That’s not how rea lobe or relationships work. Sometimes you’ll be mad at each other for weeks, sometimes you won’t figure out how to work out a problem for months or a year. The point is you stuck through it trying to work it out because even though it’s a an issue and you’re going through things there is no other person you’d rather go through these problems with. Relationships are circular your going to have butterflies, periods where you fall into a routine, periods where it seems your out of synch, periods where you question your entire relationship and then the next day the butterflies return. As long as you love each other and and try your best to be patient and work through it all is what matters. It’s normal to go through these things. He may not be nervous today but start sweating bullets tomorrow and some people handle stresss and anxiety in different ways and it’s also A LOT on the bride. Most people say it’s our day and most of the planning/decisions etc lie on our shoulder so it can become a stressful period instead of a joyful period for us. Just relax for a few days with your FH and allow yourself to just feel the love you have between each other. That’s the most important thing.

I think the pre wedding anxiety isn’t always attributed to you thinking your partner is the wrong person, it could be due to the everyday stresses you experience topped with the stresses of planning a wedding and the overall idea of this big new chapter in your life can be overwhelming overall

View Quoted Comment This is exactly what I'm dealing with. It's not so much the wedding, but just life in general right now. I think it's easy to "blame" the wedding since it's so close. In the end all the things I'm stressed about now won't matter, because we will be happily married. We are so close and with each day my anxiety gets higher.

I understand what you’re feeling and I think it’s absolutely normal. I know I’m a commitment-phob so when i get feeling anxious like that and backed into a “corner” (like there’s no turning back negativity) I just try to take a break by working out (or going out to lunch) or otherwise do something I enjoy by myself. Take some time to separate what you’re feeling in the moment from what you’re feeling when you’re relaxed and less stressed.

Jenna,
I think what your feeling is something all of us brides experience, we are responsible for 95 percent of wedding planning, and as the day gets closer our stress increases as we worry about something going wrong, take a deep breath and relax, your going to marry your best friend, and love of your life, ignore the little doubts, WE ALL have them!!! 👰💒

Funny because after reading this post but before I clicked to see your wedding date, I had a feeling you were 6 months away from your wedding and I was right.


TOTALLY NORMAL. This exact same thing happened to me 6 months before our wedding and I’ve talked to so many people who have said the same thing. There’s something about the “6 months away” time period where it’s like close enough for you to be anxious but not so close that you’re 100% busy and excited yet.

6 months before our wedding suddenly everything my now-husband did would drive me absolutely insane. I think because it was occurring to me that these flaws he has are things I’m going to have to live with FOREVER. The permanence really sets in and even when you’ve generally felt you can deal with his flaws suddenly makes you think but can I actually deal with them FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?

I truly think you’ll get past this. Just try to remind yourself of why you got engaged and why you wanted to marry him in the first place! Something I’d always do is work on my vows or read drafts of my vows that I’ve already written, to remind myself that even though I have to live with his annoying quirks forever (lol) I also get to live with everything wonderful about him too

You’re not alone and my bet is you’ll feel better in a month or so!

Omg thank you for posting this! I’ve been having a lot of anxiety lately in general. I notice it gets worse in the afternoon when I get home from work. I was starting to think something was wrong with me, but now I’m wondering if it’s wedding anxiety. Tomorrow is our 6 month mark as well 🤷‍♀️

Oh My Gosh! I thought I was the only one. I feel LITERALLY EXACTLY how you feel right now. I don't why or how to not have these thoughts :/

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I literally vented about this same situation from the OP to my best friend and MTOH, but I just felt like she was bashing me and not listening. I needed to hear exactly this !

I was sooooo anxious in the weeks up to the wedding. I do not do well with big life changes, and I was feeling just like you with wondering if I was making the right choice or if I was making a mistake by getting married. I think that reality just hit me all at once and I was having trouble coming to terms with actually being a married adult haha. On top of that, my husband and I had gone through a bit of a rough patch a few months prior (we are both grad students and were not managing our stress well which resulted in a few weeks of misunderstandings and fights), so I was feeling a little worried that we had not completely moved past that. I talked to my mom a lot, and she was very supportive and told me that it was completely normal to feel a bit anxious.


On the day of the wedding, all of my anxiety was gone I was so happy to be marrying my literal best friend in the whole world and know I 100% made the right choice. My advice to you is to be gentle with yourself and know that you are not alone. Also, it was helpful for my husband and I to spend some time together where we didn’t do anything wedding-planning related. The planning in itself is extremely stressful and can take over your life pretty easily!