Anxiety

Have you considered talking to a therapist?

I agree with Caytlyn, I would look into a counseling session. It can do a lot of good just to get everything out. Sometimes you don't realize that you have so much bottled up until someone asks you just the right questions to make that stuff come out.

View Quoted Comment Haha yeah. I have a regular therapist that I see and also take medication but my anxiety went untreated for a really long time so I’m still working on getting it under control.

Since you are already on medication and seeing a therapist the only advice I would give is to try to always keep things in perspective. Don’t let decisions paralyze you. Most of them are really not that important in the grand scheme of life. I know you want your wedding to be beautiful but nobody will remember your centerpieces or what shoes you wore or if you had programs, etc so prioritize a few things that are really important to you and focus on those.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. That’s actually really awesome advice. I always stress every little detail and never stop to think about how important that detail is.

I found and was told by my endocrinologist that blood sugar can heavily contribute to anxiety. You don't have to be diabetic to know that high sugar levels can stress you out. Might be worth it to watch your sugar levels and make sure you're not eating a ton of fried foods. I found that my anxiety was much more manageable once I started paying attention to my diet.

A relative has some long standing anxiety issues, but is not currently on medication or receiving treatment (she feels like she generally has it under control and did not feel she needed to continue with medication [her doctor & therapist were in complete agreement/support]). For her, it helps a lot to be super organized and have lists for everything (she feels like fewer things are being left to chance?). With wedding planning, she just had super-detailed lists in Google docs that she shared with those who needed to know/be involved. That helped her a lot. Good luck to you!

I don't have any advice but just wanted to say that I feel ya. My anxiety has been through the roof planning since we hit the one year mark. I'm scared of the day of if this is his it is 10 months out

My best advice (as silly and “obvious” as it sounds) is to remind yourself that you’re getting married, and that you are SO fortunate to have found the love of your life and to be getting married! Regardless of anything else that happens at your wedding or building up to it, you are very fortunate for that alone. Whenever you find yourself getting anxious just remember that

View Quoted Comment I have that advice because I had to work hard at that when planning my wedding. I also have anxiety and I’m a bit of a perfectionist and was stressed the whole time. It’s tough.

I take anxiety meds and having the same issue. Just breathe ! At the end of the day remember your marrying your best friend ! Your anxiety isnt gonna go away unfortantly but try not to let it ruin it. I've had nights over cried thinking about it all . Even thought about calling it off because he wont elope. But I remember it just one day I can do this! My issue mainly is the money were spending that we could out to better use and I have anxiety about being in front of people too. I'm afraid I wont be able to say my vows ! Imm get syuttery or panicky

The best advice I can give is this (and this applies to life in general): You can't control a lot of things about your wedding day (the weather, how people behave and act, how the food comes out, etc), so go with the flow. It's great to prepare, but your mental health comes first. If something gives you massive anxiety, think about if you actually need that thing or if it's not worth it.

I struggle with anxiety and OCD very badly! So I totally understand where you’re coming from. I constantly worry that the actual day will be ruined, things won’t go right and that I won’t be able to just enjoy the moment. What I keep trying to tell myself is that things have a way of working out, so I can only control so much. It’s so hard to just take deep breaths and trust the process, but I try to remind myself that everything will be ok. I find that when I am beyond overwhelmed with wedding stuff I take a step back and move on to something else (work, read, friends, etc) and then I come back to it when I’ve been able to calm down. I hope that helps!