Hi everyone! I am getting married in Fall 2022 and am planning to ask my friends to be in my wedding party soon. My fiance is having 6 friends in his wedding party, so I am planning to match that number.
I have 2 friends who I am closest to, and I honestly don't think I could choose between them for maid of honor. I'm planning to ask them to be co-maids of honor, however I am a bit worried because they are not the biggest fans of each other. I'm hoping that for the sake of my wedding there won't be any drama about this, but I really hope neither is offended that I want to split the maid of honor role.
I have another close friend who lives out of state who I will definitely ask to be a bridesmaid, and my 2 future sister in-laws are also definite. For my 6th, I'm torn between 2 girls. One is a friend from college who I met through a mutual friend (we are 3 years out of college) and we have stayed friends since, however we don't talk super often. I would like to think we're pretty good friends but I know she has friends she's closer to. The other girl I became friends with when we started the same job 2 and a half years ago. We quickly became good friends and text every single day, however she has only met my fiance once and I'm not sure if she would feel comfortable being a bridesmaid as we haven't been friends for very long. Just to note, we do things together outside of work and I do think we will stay friends even if we both switch companies in the future.
I would like to keep it to 6 as my fiance doesn't have anyone else he can ask, and to be honest I think 6 is the perfect number for a wedding party!
I always have anxiety about these kinds of decisions and I'm just terrified of upsetting anyone or making them feel uncomfortable if they don't feel like a close enough friend to me to be my bridesmaid. Is there any kind of etiquette for this - i.e. you should pick a friend who you've been friends with longer?
Thank you in advance for helping calm my nerves! I'm sure this is all just in my head but it's helpful to hear some other perspectives.