Anxiety & indecision

I have been super indecisive. I think it is completely normal. I doubt and second guess everything. I'm just keep telling myself everything will be ok and try to enjoy the process. I know it will be worth it in the end

There are A LOT of decisions to make and sometimes you wonder if they are the right decisions. Wedding planning is very stressful and I think everyone has that freakout moment and just wants to go to the courthouse wearing a potato sack. lol. Just tackle everything one decision or item at a time. And don't forget to tell your MOH one of their main jobs is to slap you back to reality. lol

Seriously though, you got this just write down anything left to be done and hand out tasks when you can. Take a deep breath and have a great time.

You got this, girl!!

I have moments were I can’t think at all and I go blank , or I feel overwhelmed. I have had a couple vendors I have interviewed actually act like I have no business feeling overwhelmed. Really ? This is my wedding and alot plays into it .
You can say I didn’t hire those vendors .

View Quoted Comment Hahaha potato sack sounds fantastic right now. Thanks for your advice!!

For me, it's not that I'm indecisive. It's the fact that when I think we finally have something ready to move forward with, something happens and in turn, making it seem like we don't have it together and it really sucks. We've ended up changing so many things so many times and it's like we keep having things go in circles that I feel like we'll never actually get to the wedding part. Like what's the point?? I've learned that the last place we were going to book has this stupid little "lottery" event to win a permit for the location and I'm like yea....NEXT! So once again, we're back at square one. I'm just frustrated with how this whole process is going.

View Quoted Comment Did you mention getting married in Hawaii on another board?? That really stinks. What’s the point happens a lot to me too. The point is just us two. The rest is nonsense!! (Sometimes. Lol).

I was crippled with this for awhile. I eventually just had to snap back to reality that this is ONE day. That I just needed to make a decision on something and move on. As long as your vendors are good and your ceremony and food are handled, all the rest is just details that don’t matter. No one notices. We stress for no reason truly lol

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Yea, I DID!! That was actually scrapped because we decided to start a family soon and that would have been a lot of money gone that we could put towards raising our kid(s). Then we decided San Diego but that whole lottery permit thing and I'm just sitting here like damn. So we're just gonna take a minute to regroup lol

I often have anxiety about the cost. I will look at my budget sheet and often wonder why we didn't just go to the courthouse a year ago.

I’ve been reading about pre-wedding anxiety and depression. It feels better knowing that others experience it too and you’re not alone. I still have it even if the wedding is in 2.5 weeks. The only thing that makes it better is when things get checked off the seemingly never ending list. Plus, forcing myself to exercise and do yoga. Even venting and connecting with other brides helps.

The one thing I’m really excited about is just being done and enjoying life again, aka honeymoon, relax and do nothing. We’re just going to our local coast.

Is there still a way to elope and have the cocktail party? Maybe a more chill version of the cocktail party where you can focus on enjoying the company of family and friends? And maybe elope just the 2 of you or with a tiny number of loved ones? That’s actually what I really wanted- elope with family, cocktail party with larger group but not too fancy.