Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Savvy June 2022

Anxiety help needed…

Hannah, on March 20, 2022 at 2:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 1

Saved

Flag
Hide content

Does anyone suffer from extreme anxiety leading up to their big day? This is both FHs and my second marriages. We’ve both did the huge weddings the first time around and even though our guest list is still fairly small IMO, I’m having a LOT of guilt and anxiety about it.

A lot of our guests who attended our first weddings are coming from out of town, my sister is throwing me a shower, I am doing a bachelorette party… our weeding is basically the whole works. And I’m excited and happy to do it. But I am also so nervous to be the center of attention. I used to love it, but as I’ve gotten older, I hate it. I find myself thanking everyone for coming out, excessively, and worrying that everyone is having a good time whenever I host something.
In my head, I don’t deserve this celebration… again. Im Overwhelmed with the love support and generosity from those around me, I feel undeserving of it. When people ask meDetails about my wedding, I’ll discuss it briefly and change the subject because I feel like they will think I’m annoying. Any second time brides going through this or any brides in general feel this way? I know it’s MY special time and everyone has been nothing but supportive but I cannot get out of my own head.

Flag
Hide content

1 Comments

Latest activity by Ashley, on March 20, 2022 at 6:11 PM

Beginner December 2022
Ashley · on March 20, 2022 at 6:11 PM
Flag

Hide content
No real tips, but I just wanted to say that you’re not alone with feeling this way. This is mine and FH’s first wedding but we’re used to being the people who give to others and although we have tons of love and support it’s hard to be the center of attention. I had a taste of this when we had our engagement party last week that unfortunately ended a relationship with a family member because I didn’t know how to sit back and let the attention be on me. I say this to say, you are worthy of this moment regardless of the fact that it’s your second marriage and anyone that truly loves you (which it sounds like you have an amazing support system) will want to celebrate your love a million times if they had to. This journey has shown me peoples true colors but it has also shown me how amazing the people who truly love me are and how deep there love is for us! I would say focus on that and try to remember how special this time is for you and your FH. Best wishes and if you come up with anything that helps lessen the anxiety let me know! Lol
- Reply