Anxiety about this life changing event!

I think it's very normal to feel a little apprehension during any big life changing event. I would honestly think something was wrong if you weren't a little anxious about it. If these feelings are a little too big to figure out on your own, perhaps you could talk with a therapist.

I think it's a perfectly normal feeling. I haven't lived with my parents since I was 18, and even then it wasn't much of an adjustment for me for whatever reason lol. But my FH had been living at home until we moved in together in September of last year. It was definitely an adjustment for him. He was so happy we were living together, but he felt a little sad every now and then now that he wasn't seeing his mom or his little sister nearly as often because that's what was "normal" to him for so long. It took him a couple of months to shake that feeling, but now us living together and seeing other parts of our family less than we used to is what feels normal It all comes with growing up and transitioning into adulthood, no worries!

It seems very normal, given that you have lived with your parents all this time and your only time moving will be to live with your husband. That would probably give me a certain amount of jitters too. Thinking back, I moved away from my parents to go to college, then moved apartments every year while away, living with my good friend as roommates and also living alone. So I can see that this next step is a really big jump for you. Does your FH still live with his parents too? Best wishes!

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He does! I think he'll have a harder time of it than I would! I'm accustomed staying over by family members and friends, and I can sleep literally anywhere. He feels most comfortable in his own bed and he's never moved houses in his life.

Mostly I'm glad to be away from home to get some breathing room, but this is permanent!

I felt like this a lot before we moved. I also moved directly from my mom’s house to in with my husband. We actually moved about 2 months after our wedding because I kept putting off house hunting because it was causing me so much anxiety lol. It took a couple weeks to adjust but then I started loving it!

View Quoted Comment Oh wow! So it’s a big deal on both sides.

I think its normal to feel how you are feeling! I am 29, never lived away from home and I get anxiety all the time thinking about moving out and away from home. It's scary! But also at the same time I am very excited about it all. Very much a whirlwind of emotions! But being in a new place will take time for both of you to adjust and feel comfortable.

I think it’s totally normal. I’ve been with my guy for 6 years and we just moved in together 5 months ago. And let me tell you the anxiety I had about moving in with him was crazy!! Even though we’ve been together for so long and knew we wanted forever with one another. The thought of the unknown and change just freaked me out. But everything worked itself out. It’s normal to have anxiety about why you can’t predict.

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Thanks for your experience Gen! It makes me feel a bit better.

I totally enjoyed our vacations together. We both agree that we may need time to take breaks from each other (like a couple hours to do our own thing after work in a different space)

Thinking about coming home after the honeymoon makes everything feel so 'real' for me. After 6 years of us dating omg it's really happening!

We moved in together before getting engaged but I was definitely anxious about moving in together. I'm a really routine driven person so suddenly being in a new space was really throwing me off. And I was worried about missing my parents and dog and old room and everything. And there definitely were times I missed all those things. But it got better. Once we really started making our apartment ours that helped a lot. And just getting to see each other every day was great.

If you're planning on moving close to your family there's nothing wrong with going to visit them! We still go to both of our parents' houses at least once a week.

New life change often brings anxiety because you are going into the unknown! This is normal. I deal with anxiety a lot. I can say that what is hurtful is dwelling on it so much that you become so fearful and paralyzed. Just take a deep breathe! You won't be doing this "living in a new place" by yourself. You'll have your fiance! Think of all of the positive things that will come from living with him in a new place when that anxiety creeps in. It should help turn it to excitement!

I think it’s normal. I felt the same when we first moved in together. It’s unknown, new, and scary even though it’s also incredibly happy. Give it time, acknowledge that those feelings are there but don’t over analyze them, unless you genuinely feel something is wrong (as opposed to daunting).

I'm in the same boat. We're currently looking for a place now and he's super excited and I'm nervous. My life is so comfortable now. I'm afraid of change.

What you're feeling is normal! Marriage is a huge commitment that changes the rest of your life. I'd be concerned if anyone didn't have any anxiety leading up to marriage!

Super normal. It's gonna be an adjustment and change in general can be nerve wracking