Another rsvp Question!

100% you should put "and Guest" on the envelope. The envelope tells the guest who is invited. I would assume there was no plus one if you addressed it just to one person.

It might be too late, but on our RSVP, we worried it to say that “_ number of seats have been reserved in your honor”. That way, for the online rsvp, we were able to adjust the wording to ask, “per your invitation, how many seats have been reserved for you?”

Maybe you can can incorporate some of that verbiage ?

If someone has a significant other who’s the “plus one” they aren’t a plus one, they’re an invited by name guest. For your true singles that are getting a plus one, I would certainly put “and guest” on the invite. That way it’s clear.

On the envelope you should always put exactly who is invited. So if it is a couple put both their names, if it is a single person and you’re giving them a plus one put Jane Doe and guest. We used Minted for our wedding website as well. We had guests write in who wanted what meal option and where they were staying. If that didn’t apply to them they just wrote n/a in the box. We had no issues.

Etiquette dictates that you should put on the envelope "Ms. LastName and Guest" that way they know if they get a plus one or not.

Unfortunately, many people won't know that, and will RSVP with a plus one regardless of if you write "Ms. LastName" or "Ms. LastName and guest"

In the case where you do the former and they do the latter, you'll have to decide if you want to reach out to them and let them know that despite the website allowing them to add people, you can't allow them to bring a guest.

Also, your drop down looks like it allows one or two, do you have any families invited with more than 2? That could get confusing.

Good luck!

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Oh ya, I was for sure going to do that, this was just for those people who I know don't have a significant other or I'm not sure if they have one!

I read online that the "etiquette-ly" correct way to add the "and guest" was to the inner envelope not the outer, so I didn't want to assume I could just tack that on the envelope and it be correct still.

View Quoted Comment Gotcha! We didn’t have inner envelopes and just put “and guest” on the outer envelope! I rarely see inner envelopes nowadays.

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I know I know, in hindsight I would have done that but it just completely slipped my mind!

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Ok good to know, thank you for your feedback!

View Quoted Comment If it helps- even w all of our wording ppl invited plus ones that weren’t given them lol. So in the end, as long as we stay within our budget, we’re happy.

Is the number set differently for each guest or household? If so, I'd get rid of where they can put in the name and just follow up with a call when it comes time to do the escort cards or seating chart.

Also, definitely put & Guest on the envelope. If I got an invitation addressed to me without guest, I would assume it was only me invited.

I think you're overthinking this.... I too used Minted Invites/website and did online RSVP. I addressed the invites to both the person I was inviting and their guest (if applicable) and then used the drop down boxes that you describe. I did not have people wait until they got to the website to RSVP to find out exactly who was invited. I also have people fill in a blank for the names of people attending, their dinner choice and any food allergies / intolerances. It all worked out really well and I had zero issues with any of my 185 guests not understanding who was invited!

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Thanks! I replied to a PP that I thought "and guest" was reserved for inner envelopes, not outer envelopes, so that's where my confusion was on if it was ok to add that to my one envelope. I will be adding "and guest" now that many of y'all have said that would still be acceptable

As for your scenario, I'd say I'd reach out to those that gave themselves a plus one, explain and apologize for the confusion, and hope they understand. But if their added person is a significant other I just didn't know about I'd probably just bite the cost of that extra person so as not to be rude lol.

I can add as many as I want in the RSVP settings through Minted, so if there is a family of 5, 7, 10 whatever, I can change the drop-down to reflect that.

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Ok great, good to know, thank you!

Yes I would just put it on the invitation as you suggested. That’s what we did. Those with no plus one only had their name.

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Ohhhh, got it.

If you have an inner envelope, then yes, you add "and guest" there. But since you aren't doing an inner envelope, you add it to the outer. If you google you'll find some good results about how to do the outer in this case. Basically our outer acts as your inner.

If possible, try to find out their plus one's name and it won't seem so odd and specifies exactly who they can bring. (I think some others said this too)

I think you're fine! Good luck!

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So if you invite a family of 6 and they only RSVP for 3, how will you know which 3 will be attending? Is there a way you can edit the text above the box to say something more like "names of attendees"? Otherwise that may make it tricky for a seating chart/escort cards and you'll have to reach out.

If you don't have an inner envelope and want your guest to know exactly who is invited / if they get to bring a guest you could do what I did. I got some nice gold/white string that matched my invites and tied the suite together with a small bow and a tag that specified "John and guest" or whatever their plus ones name is if you know it. Ugh I wish I could find a picture of it because it actually came out really nice.

Hi Shelby! Congrats on your engagement!

You received some helpful feedback & advice here in this thread! Taking that into account, I am glad you're feeling better about this. That's great that you can go in and modify the Minted site, depending on plus ones and other guest RSVPs.

How many guests are you inviting total? Also, I love the design of your invitations, they're really pretty!

The big day will be here before you know it and we are so excited for you!

View Quoted Comment Hi Jenna! In the 5th picture you can see I added a box that says "Name of guest(s), if any:" so my hope is that people will see that and use it! I can only hope though lol. Otherwise I'll be making some phone calls..