Annoyed

I'm sorry this happened,. I can't imagine the feelings you have. It makes no sense to me either how or why this happens, you read it a lot on here. Don't let it get to you. Believe me I get we wanting to get married and wanting your family to be there, I too postponed from Sept 2020 or Aug 2021.

Ugh that is so annoying. I am so sorry that this happened to you. My wedding is in 11 days and some of my closest family members are also not coming and my dad is pissed. I have to say, as upset as I was I know that on the actual day I will never notice. Be upset now, and then just enjoy the people who are there. Best of luck

Ugh. I imagine some of your emotional response comes from all the drama of rescheduling and postponing. And finally now being able to exhale a little and then this happens... its the straw on the camel's back. But as much as it bothers you now, and as you've mentioned, it will impact your day only slightly. It's just the quantity of stress and trying to make sure your wedding day gets to be magical despite a global pandemic and sabotaging circumstances. You can only tell yourself, it is what it is so many times before your brain is like "shut up, I'm upset and i'm going to be upset!!!" You'll get past this but for now allow yourself to vent and release some of the stress and then pack it up and move on to the celebration.

That is definitely annoying, I get why you're upset

Nah!!! She wrong for that in my opinion. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I know it's hard but try and stay positive. Btw...I hope no one goes to hers...sorry...not sorry... 😇

As annoying as it may be, She is able to do what she wants and have her wedding when she wants it as long as it's not the same day. I don't know why a family member or friend would want it the next day after their cousins/friends wedding, but it does happens because you only get one day for your wedding not an entire year. I'd just let it go and move on. Don't let this little inconvenience ruin the happiest day of your life.

I’d be pissed!! Not only did she make it the weekend after you BUT so soon after you’ve been waiting so long for your big day? Obviously she can’t change her date now but I definitely think you have every right to be upset.

I don't think you're over reacting at all.
We got engaged a couple years ago and planned on a long engagement. We sent out our save the dates for our October 2021 wedding just as covid started, we're very lucky for not having to move our date and I'm so sorry you've had to postpone, I can't imagine your frustration.
We are officially 87 days out and my FHs cousin announced they're having their wedding (they're already married technically bc he's in the service so they eloped but never got their big wedding) the weekend before ours IN CANCUN! Which means some of his family will not be attending ours... its frustrating and not fair but my FH keeps telling me that it's their loss. As sad as it is, no you're not over reacting and it's their loss. You enjoy your special day. It'll be perfect! congratulations ❤

Covid or not, this is a bad take and a friendship/relationship ending move. I'd call/text her and pretend it was an accident and see what she says.

There could be many reasons why they had to choose that date, still i would feel pretty annoyed as well if this happened to me. It is very disappointing for your dad and for you to not see your family. I hope your wedding will be fantastic anyways!

That's a very quick turnaround from engagement to wedding--Is she pregnant?🤔

She has not had your awful experience . She has not cancelled twice. Both of these have left you with a lot of anger.
But you act as thou she has done this to spite you. Did it occur to you for a minute that they chose that date because of the other family, availability of their important people. Or because it was one of very few dates during their short engagement when their chosen venue and vendors will be available? Most people will not choose to postpone a full year, and when she started looking she probably resented that you moved into her window of time. As people say, you only get one day. And being mean to your family has nothing to do with her choice. I got married the same summer as two other cousins who lived a block away meaning close all our lives. And 3 of us siblings. It was rather like when people have a wedding weekend, with relatives from out of town using evening before, and time before and after for seeing other relatives. This means father and brothers will likely stay in town 4 days. How nice! Stop looking on the negative side and see how good it can be.

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How did she move into the cousin's window of time. The bride sent out save the dates in April and the cousin got engaged last week. It's not like they were both trying to pick dates at the same time and the bride picked knowing the cousin wanted to get married then.

I'm so sorry this happened, and I certainly understand why are you are feeling hurt and frustrated. Hopefully it will not impact your dad's other brothers' ability to attend your wedding. Are you close with this cousin? It probably won't change anything, but if it would make you feel better to talk it out with her, then perhaps having a conversation could be good. It's possible that there were mitigating circumstances that they have not shared, though it is still unfortunate that it worked out that way. It's ok to feel annoyed, but let it out now so that you can enjoy your day :-)

So ridiculous! She chose the day after your wedding! Wow. I am so sorry this happened to you. Try to forget her. Your wedding will be amazing and wonderful. Hang in there!

Sorry you are dealing with this, but it sounds like you are already balancing your emotions with a rational, pragmatic approach, which is really good! It's totally fair just to need a space to vent and safely express your frustration even when you know when all is said and done it is gonna be what it is gonna be.

I think being miffed at your cousin is a pretty natural response to this situation. Its unfortunate that she couldn't have more closely considered your existing plans when making her own. If you aren't close and there is little overlap between the guest list she might just have thought it wasn't a big deal.

Again, I'm sorry. It sucks for sure.

How far apart are the two weddings in distance? A few hours one morning, or impossible if someone wants to go to one then the other next day? How many at each wedding?

Hi there!

Im sorry this is happening to you! To be honest SHAME on your cousin! Honestly, out of all weekends why does it have to be the same as yours! It doesn't make sense to me... especially since she was well aware of your situation. Some people can be so very inconsiderate.

I don't blame you for being angry.. as would I....

Maybe try talking to her and asking her rationale behind choosing to get married the day after yours and give her your concerns.

Good luck to you!

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Mine is New York, hers is in Arkansas.