I have been engaged since June 2019 my big day is July 2021. I have been with my fiancés for 10 years.
I wanted a smaller wedding and my fiancé wanted a big wedding. I put my foot down at 250. My side/family all went under and his family all went over on invites/STDS. My parents said they would cover the cost of everything as long as his parents would cover booze and rehearsal. My fiancé and I are also paying for the wedding. His parents are divorced and his dad one min tells me i don't need this big wedding and hes not going to help but than says he's fine with covering booze. Jokes on you your son wanted the big wedding so stop sharing your opinion! If he doesn't my fiancé and I have to come up with the money. Just annoyed because I get comments well I invited 500 people and had a wedding for less than 5K ok that was the 70s! im trying to be cheap as possible.
Ive asked my fiancés mom 3 times if she would cover the rehearsal dinner. I have been told its to far out who cares.... mean time she asked if she wanted to pay for the cake cool yeah! so she puts half down. Than she offered to pay for flowers. Cool yeah she wanted this lady for $1,200 and I refuse to spend that much on flowers. I found someone for $515 no money till later. Time has gone by and I asked a 4th time will you cover the rehearsal dinner. Her response did you send out save the dates yet? yes? was told she wouldn't have $800 to drop on a dinner and wouldn't pay for booze at the rehearsal... meanwhile I haven't even planned of what food or anything and I said we could do a 2 drink max or even do a backyard thing! She just got all defensive and argued..... she is also taking jabs any talk about the wedding. I told her 40 guest she has the most at 72! She also makes the most $ out of all of us. I figured by saving her money on flowers she would at least say yeah that money can go towards the rehearsal.
I think If I just offer to pay for the flowers do you think she would than pay for the rehearsal?
Was that a mind trick!? She asked if I sent STDs first before answering... I don't understand they had 3 boys and expect brides parents to pay for everything but yet don't understand why we cant have a 500 guest wedding. They aren't old school but yet want to stab at me any comment they get for the wedding. I'm ready to just scream and my fiancé as we have all our vendors locked and now 7 months till the wedding. I just wanted Vegas or a 50 guest wedding I have been planning and doing everything and im so over it every time I talk to his parents. advice please?