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Annoyed at cousin/family?

Alejandra, on October 14, 2019 at 8:16 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11

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Hi all,
We’ve decided to have a Sunday wedding next year. Obviously Saturday weddings are more traditional. It happened for three reasons a) our venue was already booked for all Saturdays, b) it’s more affordable, and c) FH’s family will have to travel in from about three different states, so they would either have to take Thursday and Friday off for the wedding or (since it’s on a Sunday) just Monday. My family wasn’t super excited about a Sunday wedding. My cousin said “come on, don’t be cheap. Have it on a Saturday.” Which I thought was pretty rude. She and her husband got married at the courthouse and were planning on having a reception afterwards. However they decided to not have a reception at all and save that money for a house. So it’s like...do you really have the moral authority to say that? Lol it annoyed me and I’m still slightly annoyed. That was about a month or more ago. My family has since calmed down and have accepted a Sunday wedding. FH and I were both really annoyed about it for a while and he felt that we shouldn’t host a wedding for people who are going to complain constantly. It’s all okay now, but I’m worried if he’ll feel the same if it happens again. Advice?

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Latest activity by Brittany, on October 15, 2019 at 3:58 PM

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Cyndy · on October 14, 2019 at 8:30 AM
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People are always going to find something to complain about. Let it go and plan your big day and whoever comes great and let the others sit home.
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Amber · on October 14, 2019 at 8:30 AM
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Don't let other peoples opinions dictate your wedding. There is nothing wrong with having a Sunday wedding, we're doing the same. It really wasn't about the money, our venue just didn't have any Saturdays in the time frame we wanted. But saving money is a bonus. They aren't paying for your wedding so they should keep their opinions to themselves, that was incredibly rude to say. Keep your head up girl! You don't have to justify your choices for YOUR wedding to anyone
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Danielle · on October 14, 2019 at 8:35 AM
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Have your wedding with tons of ppl in attendance. It's the best most important party you'll ever throw and frankly ppl always think they can do it better. But this is your chance to absolutely show-off. Go big and show em!
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Allison · on October 14, 2019 at 8:52 AM
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My wedding is going to be on a Monday. It was much cheaper but also my partner's folks stre clear across the country as well as out of the country, and flying is cheaper on Tuesdays.
My family, the people who are largely retired and a max of 1hr away, are the ones complaining.
At this point they've settled down (after 6 months of fussing) but during all of that jibber we just held our ground.
There's nothing you can do when people object to things that really don't pertain their opinions. You made your choice, it's valid, and they'll live.
Just keep on moving forward and eventually they'll shut up and get on board.
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Megan · on October 14, 2019 at 9:42 AM
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Someone will always complain... it's just the nature of the beast. Whether it's the day (like you) or another guest (my problem), dont doubt yourselves over 1 person. Good luck and happy planning! 🍀
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Melle · on October 14, 2019 at 10:46 AM
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I agree with PPs in that someone always complains about weddings. Because everyone gets so opinionated. Do what you want. If they wanna come then ok if they don't then girl, bye. Aha.
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Heather · on October 14, 2019 at 1:06 PM
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I would just shrug it off. Tell them come or don’t come if a day matters that much to you and see how fast they back track. My wedding is on a Thursday - no one is helping up pay for the reception/ceremony so I DO NOT CARE if they like it or not that it’s during the week. I definitely expect to have some declines and I completely understand that and I will celebrate with those people at a different date.
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Alyssa · on October 14, 2019 at 1:23 PM
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We are having our wedding on a Sunday because it was over 10,000 cheaper to do so with our guest count. To move it by one day and spend 10k was not something I was willing to do. People were either going to have to travel and take Friday off, or in this case, they can travel and take Monday off. Potato/potato.
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Alejandra · on October 14, 2019 at 4:07 PM
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From one Alejandra to another, lol, shrug it off. My Sunday wedding went off without a problem. All of our guests who rsvp'd showed and most stayed until about 10-11pm depending on their drives home. My MIL complained about it at first because she would have to take Monday off maybe a week or 2 later she took of about 3 days of work because she was tired and frustrated with her work, before this gets misread I can care less what she does on her days off which sh'es entitled to but to complain about missing work for your sons wedding for one day and then taking 3 random days off because you're tired kind of sucks. Hubby was obviously bothered but let it slide. Come wedding week and MIL takes off 2 weeks of work because family was coming for the wedding weekend and she wanted time to pick them up, take them shopping and drop them off at the airport when they were leaving. Imagine if we would have changed our date just to have it on a Saturday so my MIL can not have to take off work but then she ends up taking off way more time. OMG we would have paid a few more thousand just to do that and for what? At the end none of it mattered, so with that being said you need to block off this cousin so that their negativity will not affect you and move forward with your planning. My one cousin who was very judgy and negative never was considered for our wedding because you want to be surrounded by people who love and support you and your FH.

Best of Luck!
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Nicole · on October 15, 2019 at 7:36 AM
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We got married on a Monday and it was a destination wedding. One family member made backhanded comments the whole engagement which did annoy me but I am so glad I didn’t let it deter me from our plan.
The wedding is for you guys to enjoy.
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Brittany · on October 15, 2019 at 3:58 PM
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Ignore it. My husband's grandfather complained about our wedding being on a Friday because he likes to volunteer on Fridays. I literally said "you're not missing your grandson's wedding." He came, and thought our wedding was amazing which is huge because he's a tough person to please. So don't let their comments bother you, if they end up coming, they'll be glad they did, if not then they'll miss out
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