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Just Said Yes July 2023

Announcing Year Late Elopement

B.Monty, on April 20, 2023 at 6:12 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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Hello all!

I’d like to provide a bit of backstory before jumping into my concern. My partner and I had been planning our destination wedding for a little over a year before receiving the unfortunate news that the resort would no longer be able to accommodate our wedding plans due to a natural disaster. We were set to have the symbolic wedding in July of this year. Due to the resort only being able to provide symbolic wedding, we had to get legally married in the states. We wanted that ceremony to be intimate and just us two since we were planning our grand wedding. We planned and set that date, last year! We went to the courthouse and eloped. We enjoyed every moment of it, announced to our parents and decided to keep the news under wraps since we were still actively planning the grand wedding. Since it’s cancelled now, how do we politely announce our elopement a year ago?! We’ve opted to forego a ceremony or reception and plan a longer honeymoon now. How do we, in a nice, neat, way announce this?

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Latest activity by Jacks, on April 20, 2023 at 12:40 PM

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Cece · on April 20, 2023 at 8:20 AM
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The big mistake here was keeping your marriage a secret from your family and friends. I’m not sure how you can politely announce that you eloped over a year ago, and have been deceiving them ever since. Maybe just send out an announcement with your photo that says “we eloped!” and don’t provide the date as to when you did it. Then people will have to come to you directly to ask for any specifics, which will at least give you the opportunity to explain.
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CM · on April 20, 2023 at 10:09 AM
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You can certainly send out delayed wedding announcements but if you include the date don’t be surprised when people do the math. Actual destination weddings can already be a considerable imposition and a burden and I’m sure some prospective guests would have appreciated knowing they were being invited to a “grand” celebration as opposed to a wedding.

Before anyone objects, yes, in some faiths or countries a religious or legal wedding comes first followed in very short order by another ceremony. That’s fine when it’s widely known and common knowledge but not otherwise.
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Jacks · on April 20, 2023 at 12:40 PM
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Thus the problem when you start out trying to hide the elopement. I would send out a card saying you were married in a private ceremony. If anyone asks, I wouldn't perpetuate the lie. Just be honest.
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