Announcing without inviting

You don't. You do it after.

Ditto @Melissa.

If I were to announce it to people who weren't invited, I'd send an announcement out after the fact. Majority of my FHs family lives out of state, so I see where you're coming from, but I don't know how you'd go about announcing an upcoming wedding without inviting them when the time comes. If I got a wedding announcement id be expecting an invite as well.

No no no. Keep quiet. Say nothing. You're gonna open up a can of worms and everyone will say, "here's my address for the invite. Me, Sue, John, Kim, Rachel, Sarah and Derek look forward to being there!"

You send an announcement AFTER you're married, if at all. I personally think wedding announcements are weird.

Also think wedding announcements are weird. It's very gift grabby to me.

Uhm...word of mouth or facebook. I called all family members I'm close to and then changed Facebook status, everyone else found out because someone else told them. I also think wedding announcements are weird.

Why would you reach out to someone to tell them you're not inviting them to your wedding? Send an announcement after if you must. Otherwise, they'll learn that you're engaged/married through word of mouth or social media I'm sure.

Yep. Word of mouth or social media about engagement. Formal announcements should be done after the wedding. People will be expecting an invitation.

Announce them after marriage

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I'm assuming you've already told your immediate family and close friends, and will probably update your FB status. Once that happens, anyone can share your engagement news with extended family. If you don't talk to the extended family directly on a regular basis, especially about wedding things, there's no need for them to expect an invitation.

Also, use the most gossipy person in your family to spread news. In my case, it's my Grandma. For something I want everyone to know, I tell Grandma, Grandma tells everyone, and now the news is out there with very little effort on my part.

Announce after.