Anniversary Tier of wedding cake eaten 😢

Let it go. This is somethings so small.

If you want to do something nice, since you other daughter actually made the cake, you could see if she could make a tiny replica for their 1 year anniversary. Problem solved.

If that's still what you're focused on from your daughter's wedding, that's really unfortunate for you. I'd try to forget that and remember everything wonderful that happened - if not for you, for her.

They could get an additional cake made to save for their 1st anniversary! We didn't have to save the top layer as our baker made an additional 6 inch cake for us to save (that's currently in the freezer). I completely understand why you'd be upset, though!

We didn't save our top tier. I can't imagine saving a cake for an entire year then eating it. We are just going to have the bakery remake it on our 1 year anniversary. Can your other daughter do that for them? As a guest, I'd assume if something was on the dessert table, it was fine to eat?

It is very clear that the one-year anniversary cake is an important tradition to you and I am sorry you aren't able to give that gift to your daughter and SIL. However, this is a tradition that isn't very common anymore and I am willing to bet the guest had no idea they were trodding on something special to you. I am sure your daughter and SIL appreciate your thoughtfulness and sentimentality far more than they would appreciate the cake itself. I'd recommend allowing yourself to feel bad or another day, but then move on to how you can still treat your them moving forward. Your good intentions can still be acted upon. Let us know what you decide to do next!

Our bakery makes us an anniversary cake for free which we're getting from them. My venue cut all three tiers because it was necessary to feed everyone, plus I wanted to offer all three flavors I chose. Hubby and I left to our honeymoon for a week after and we stayed at an Airbnb so that all of our family can be together so it would have been traveling from one freezer to the next. They did box up the leftovers which were eaten over the next two days by my hubby and I before we left and the rest by my family, lol.

I was at my cousins wedding about two years ago and she took so long to cut her cake that someone went and cut a few pieces while the bride and groom where off somewhere. It was not a very nice thing to do but by the time we arrived to her wedding the food was almost gone so I shared with my mom and no one else got to try the cake either, oh yeah and the wedding ended by the bride crying out in front of everyone because someone cut the cake, it was insane.

The guests did them a favor and saved them from eating stale cardboard with crusty icing. Now days, it is better to have it re-created for the anniversary and actually enjoy it.

I wouldn't have hard feelings about this. Yes, leaving the cake out on the table I think made it fair game to your guests, even though it's a bummer! It gives you the opportunity to do something nice for your daughter and ask the bakery to recreate the cake flavor next year for them, not a whole tier but just a cupcake or two. If you explain to them, maybe they'll even do it for free or discounted. As many others are saying, lots are skipping out on this tradition now a days since cakes really dont keep that well and take up valuable freezer space, it's become a lot more casual of a thing. I was at a friends a few months after their wedding for dinner and games and they said "hey, do you wanna help us eat this? we're trying to get rid of it" and pulled out some of their wedding cake lol! We just taked to our baker and he said "do you want to save the top tier? I suggest you don't." & gave a bunch of reasons why not to. Unless it was malicious, which it doesnt sound like it was, I would let this go and not say anything to the family who did it. If this is the only negative of the day, I am sure your daughter had a beautiful wedding experience!

Under no circumstance would I ever consider cutting into and serving myself a piece of someone else's wedding cake, especially not a tiered one. If your daughter (the one who got married) doesn't seem upset then I would try to let it go. Keeping the top of the cake may not have been a tradition they were planning to do. If the wedding was overall lovely and everyone enjoyed themselves, then it's really a small thing to concern yourself with.

I understand how it would be upsetting, but since there is little that can be done to rectify the situation and it wasn't the most egregious thing ever, its probably best to let it go as best you can and not expend the emotionally energy holding onto those negative feelings.