Anniversary shout out at wedding?

Our wedding day fall on one of our guest birthday. We thought about having the DJ shout her out because how many people do you know with a birthday on leap day? We ran it past her and she shut it down because she doesn't like attention and she said it's our day. I would run it past your FH cousin, but technically it's not their one year because it'll be the day before.. In the end, it's your day so do what you both want. If you want to shout them out go for it and if you don't then dont lol. I was at a wedding 2 weeks ago and everyone forgot to do their toasts. If it wasnt for the bride posting it on FB we would have never known lol.

Honestly it's not a big deal to give them just a little bit of a shout-out but at the same time I also can agree with you in that it is your day and I totally see why you would want all the attention on you. Definitely really think about it and I would definitely tell your FH to not mention that possibility to his friend for fear of them getting hopeful and then if they say no then thinking you're being a bridezilla. Me personally I don't think that your thought of wanting attention all on you is a bad thing because ultimately it is your wedding day. I would say if you give them a little bit of a shout-out I wouldn't do more than that like give him a special dance or anything like that but that's just my selfish side coming out hahaha.

I think it's totally reasonable and understandable that you want your wedding day to be about you and your FH. I think it'd be sweet if you personally wished them a happy anniversary, but you definitely don't have to make it a shoutout type of thing. I dont know if you have it planned, but the "anniversary dance" (where all cmareied couples at the wedding dance and the MC goes "couples married for XX amount of years, stay on the dance floor") would be a cute way to give them a shoutout without making it just about them. The MC could say something like "congratulations to _____ for their 1 year anniversary".

So our wedding date is going to be my sons 7th birthday, my late grandmas birthday and wouldve been his parents 50th anniversary(his dad passed away when he was 19)
We plan on having bday cake and singing happy birthday to my son and having either our DJ or officiant mention something about his parents and possibly my grandma.

I dont think there's anything wrong with wishing them a happy anniversary. They might be upset that your day is only a day off from theirs. So I think it might be a nice gesture.

IF you know their first dance song, I would have the DJ "dedicate" the song to them as just part of the regular dance portion. I think that's a nice way to acknowledge, but doesn't really take away from you at all because it's part of what you'd be doing anyway (dancing).

View Quoted Comment They picked the same first dance that we will have, so that would really bother me 😂

DJS do this if you have a dj. They might have a song dedicated to the married couples etc

I would be fine about it. My moh had her bday same day as my wedding and I took the time to announce it and everyone sang Happy bday. And his groomsmen got married a week before us and my husband announced his congratulations to it

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Then maybe just dedicate a different slow song to them? I mean, I get not wanting them to have a big spotlight moment at your wedding. But if your FI wants to recognize it somehow, it won't take away from your day at all if before the 2nd or 3rd slow song during your dance, you have the DJ say "this next song is dedicated to John and Jane Smith for their first anniversary tomorrow, congratulations!". And then everyone dances.