Anniversary Dance

We are not doing the "game" part, but we are doing the dance. Our wedding is June 6th 2020, my parents got married on June 7th and our best friends got married last year on June 8th lol. So along with the first dances we will be throwing in this dance dedicated to my parents and our best friends and have all married couples join in.

We wanted to originally but we thought it might make some of my family really sad. A lot of people have had their husbands pass over the last 10 years (all on my mom side, including her dad, her mom's second husband, and both of her brothers) so we thought it'd be best not to draw attention to it.

I wanted to do it but I thought it might be a slap in the face to some people in my family so I decided not to

I was going to do it but we really aren’t going to have too many couples at our wedding who have been married a long time. My parents are divorced. Neither of us have a full, living set of grandparents left. Aunts and uncles either aren’t able to both come (only my aunt can make it) or they are on their second marriages. So I think it would’ve come down to either FH’s parents or possibly his old neighbors if they make. So we just decided to skip it.

I think When I’m 64 is a cute choice though. Or just something classic like Wonderful Tonight.

Daughter & SIL had one at their wedding -- there are a LOT of long-term marriages in our family and several married couples among their friends. I think people really enjoyed it and there is a darling photo of the B&G as they were eliminated first for their then 3-hr long marriage. They chose the song "Longer," by Dan Fogelberg. It's a beautiful song and very easy to slow dance to. There are a lot of divorces on SIL's side, but he was strongly in support of celebrating all the happy marriages that they find inspiring. (Daughter's great aunt & uncle "won" with 60+ years, and three pairs of her aunts & uncles tied with more than 40 yrs each.)

For comparison, I did a quick count and of the 100 guests, there were at least 20 married couples.

We aren’t doing the game aspect because we have several people who were all married in the same year (and some on the same exact day). We are just doing a dance for all married couples, and FH is in charge of picking the song for that and hasn’t decided but is thinking about “Marry Me” by Train

I'm handing my bouquet off to the longest married couple instead of doing a toss. They have been married 63 years and aren't in the best of health/shape so I don't want them to have to come dance and wear themselves out or anything.. so, I'll probably just take the mic, make an announcement and hand it off. Maybe a song about growing old together - my mind is blank.

We’re doing this and giving my bouquet to the longest married couple. We checked our guest list and my future in-laws will get it since they’ve been married the longest (44years) so we might play the song from their first dance.

We're doing it in reverse so we can start the dance floor. We were thinking of starting it with the pair of his grandparents who have been married the longest and to play their first dance song for them to dance to. Or, we'd have both pairs of grandparents on the dance floor to start us off because they're only 1 year off from each other. I'm anticipating we'll need 2 songs, so if we don't use his grandparents' songs, I've chosen Don't Blink by Kenny Chesney and Love Like Crazy by Lee Brice.

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This is really sweet and I've never seen it or heard of it before! I really love this idea and might use it for my own wedding

We did this. We had to wind up using 2 songs. We did a Reba song, don’t remember which. And then our DJ recommended another song. It was older and he used it second when all the older couples were out there. Talk to your DJ and see if they have any recommendations.

On another note, I think our guests really enjoyed this. My grandmother was surprised by the flowers at the end. We didn’t have them give us advice. My dads dad passed a year Ana half ago, so I was nervous how my grandmother would feel especially since they would have been the “winner”. I got her a red rose and presented it to her once me and my husband were “out”. It was semi private as it was in the room but I didn’t call attention to it or announce it.