Tag along to my last post, I suddenly find myself getting nastier as the day get's closer. I do think a big contributor is obviously the money. My amazing mom is paying for the venue, which is pretty much the whole thing. This venue requires 100 people which was an easy number to meet. In the planning process I sat down with FH and said " Give me the names of people who if they didn't attend the wedding it would upset you" which I know is a dramatic way to word it, but I didn't want a big wedding 100 was already a lot for me but I knew it would be more due to the fact that his immediate family is very big and that was perfectly fine. Flash forward we had about 98 people, I then asked my mom who I might have forgotten and who she might want to invite because at the end of the day she's paying. Now his mother and I are close, she great she's caring, she a little too involved but honestly never bothered me, I decided to give her the same courtesy. I've always treated his mother the way I would want him to treat mine and that's how I've always been. My mother had a few cousins she felt like I should've invited nothing crazy 6 people more than what FH and I had, now this is where the issue comes into play. His mother kept putting off the people she wanted to invite, I asked and asked and she kept saying oh it's not too many don't worry i'll give it to you think day. That day passes nothing.. it got to the point that I told FH he needed to ask her because I needed to know. She finally tells me and its 15 people, which Idk but in 100 person wedding I feel like is a bit much, to remind you FH had already told me all the family he truly wanted there. THEN she continues to tell me they all need a +1. That's a total of 30 people.... I realize looking back I should've kindly told her that was too many BUT again I'm close to her and clearly I made a mistake in not speaking my mind. Well were 2 months away and I find myself being completely dressed out because that was not in the budget... She tells me oh my brothers won't come but still invite them send them an RSVP send them an invitaion.. and it's very inconsiderate if you already are so sure they won't come I'm going to send them these things and waste my money? It's not only paying extra per person she fails to realize that now I will have to pay for extra flowers centerpieces. Now that the wedding is getting closer I find myself talking to her less and being very short. I've spoken to her before told her that I'm stressed because this was not what I wanted it's too many people I didnt wan't to go into debt for this wedding. All she says is it's going to be ok, but she fails to realize it's from the people she decided to invite. FH tells me not to stress and we will pay it off it's not an issue, but I can't help but not want to talk to her at all.
UGH
