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Katy
Dedicated February 2019

Am i wrong for feeling the way i do?

Katy, on May 28, 2019 at 3:12 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4
This past Saturday I married my best friend and soul mate. It was truly the happiest day of my life.

Now to the negative. My cousin, of whom I considered one of my closest cousins did not attend. The day I booked the venue over 2 1/2 years ago I told him immediately. He swore I had nothing to worry about and reassured me he would be there. Many things have happened since then, like him getting married and a baby on the way but still throughout it all he said he would be there.

Fast forward to the day before my wedding he sends me a long text telling me he won’t be able to attend because of financial reasons (he went into more detail) but he was so sorry and “promises” to buy me and my husband tickets to Europe as a gift and blablabla

I couldn’t believe it. Telling me the DAY before so it was too late to change our count and talk about putting a damper on my day, then telling me through a text. I just feel like as dramatic as it sounds things between us will never be the same. I feel like something that meant so much to me was not a priority to him and that’s what hurts the most. Like you can come because of money but you promise to buy us tickets to Europe?
there were several other people who couldn’t attend and while of course I wanted them there I understood. I thought me and him were closer and I thought his word meant more. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

4 Comments

Latest activity by Cher Horowitz, on May 28, 2019 at 3:56 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You're never wrong for feeling however you feel. You should be upset, but don't dwell on it. You can't change it. Did you express your feelings to him when he contacted you? I agree it's odd that he said he couldn't come for financial reasons and then offered to buy you tickets to Europe. Did you have a destination wedding?

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  • Katy
    Dedicated February 2019
    Katy ·
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    Yea I think your right and I need to not dwell on it. I did express my feelings and he never texted back after that which kinda upset me too. I didn’t have a destination wedding but he’s about 2 1/2 hours from me.
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  • Jessica
    Master September 2020
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    I understand why you’re upset and I would be too. It is odd to me that he couldn’t come 2 1/2 hours “for financial reasons” but can afford to buy tickets for you to go to Europe. Did the additional details make sense, or did it seem like he there was something he wasn’t saying? I’m sorry he couldn’t make it and didn’t tell you until the last minute. Maybe something happened that he was embarrassed about abc that’s why he hasn’t responded, I’m not trying to make excuses it just sounds like there’s a lot more to the story. I understand feeling like things will never be how they were, and I hope you two can communicate and repair your relationship. I have a cousin who we lived with growing up and is more like a sister and we’re having a spat right now (like sisters), but I know she still loves me and I love her despite our differences in opinion on the situation. I agree not to dwell on it too much, I find writing about his I’m feeling helps me let go of things easier. Good luck!
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    Totally see why you're upset! To wait until the day before to tell you is inexcusable and rude. Like PP said, be open to your cousin on how you feel - if he's truly close to you, he'll care and listen. Hopefully this can be resolved, even if things are never exactly the same as before

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