bethf
Devoted August 2019

Am i the only 1?? i am excited....

bethf, on August 6, 2019 at 7:53 AM Posted in Community Conversations 1 18
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SO my wedding is this month and I am excited! I swear lol but every time someone asks me how its going I tell them how I honestly feel and I get a look! I have been with my FH for about 5 years now, we have a house kids and everything that comes with having kids.

I am excited but I just want it to be here, I am sick of all the planning and being SUPER busy all the time. I know the day will be amazing and I am sure I will miss it when it's done, but OMG it is a lot harder then I thought it would be with kids.

Am i being dramatic? Does anyone else feel like this, kids or not? I feel like I get a look like im being ungrateful, which is weird because its my money and my day haha

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  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
    Yam ·
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    Weddings take a lot out of you, especially if you don’t have a wedding planner. I know I’m tired all the time. My coworkers all quit so I’m last man standing. I work my butt off, come home and work my butt off again. My days off are vendor appointments and crafting. A couple vendors dropped out so I had to hit the ground running and lock in vendors again.
    I don’t have time to take a “me” day exactly but I’ve started having tea time both at work and at home. It’s my moment to relax because it feels like my head is going to melt, lol. Luckily my boss and my loved ones leave me alone during tea time.
    Remember it’s not permanent and it’ll all be worth it in the end.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    By the last week of planning anytime anybody asked me my response was "ready for this to be done with!" I think it's normal.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
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    I think most people just don't expect a genuine response. They're probably expecting a generic "it's good".
    I've absolutely felt this feel without kids, you're probably exhausted
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  • Annette
    Savvy November 2019
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    I don’t think you’re being dramatic. But I would stop telling people how you feel lol. Just because people are always so judgmental of everything. Me and my fiancé have been together 4 years on August 21st and I used to get asked all the time about when we are getting married. It was so rude. He proposed in May and we planned the wedding for November of this year. Fast I know lol. And I got a lot of judgment on that too. People went from “get married already!!” to “holy - that was fast!!” And the wedding took 3 weeks to plan. I’m already done planning besides doing the seating chart and finalizing things with the venue. I hate when people ask how the plans are going because it’s done and I have nothing to say. I just tell people “good we’re excited!” And leave it at that. You have the right to feel anyway you want, but if people are gonna rude and judgmental you don’t have to tell them lol.
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  • Jennifer
    VIP September 2020
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    I feel ya sister!!!!! I want mine to be here too- 409 days left lol!

    I am planning solo, as FH is a trial attorney and suppppper busy, and there’s no family or bridal party to help near me, going to school for an Associate’s Degree in Paralegal, have chronic health issues and now a possible new one, family drama and construction nightmare that I thought over and not as it failed final county inspections.
    So I am a bit overwhelmed, but I, too, know when it’s done I will miss it. I get THOSE looks too! lol sometimes from FH, lmao!

    Hugs and know you've got this!
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  • Tina
    Super August 2019
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    I hear you. I have been over the moon excited about this up until the end. Its like I want it now!! LOL. Tired of waiting at this point. LOL. And yea I am tired of the thinking part of planning. Its way too much thinking involved. I have so many ideas but I am not sure I can pull them all off so I am just going to do my best. You are not alone =D

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  • bethf
    Devoted August 2019
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    I am starting to realize this lmao which is funny too because everyone asking me has felt the same way but I am just to honest and say it I guess! Smiley xd

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  • bethf
    Devoted August 2019
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    I did my planning in spurts and even though I am always thinking about it I make sure to take a break from it and my family lol

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  • bethf
    Devoted August 2019
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    OMG women! Hopefully everything goes smooth from this point for you!

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  • Alyssa
    Devoted October 2019
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    I can totally relate to this! I have 3 kids and a full time job and on top of that planning this wedding. It’s very overwhelming at times. As excited as I am about it, I honestly can’t wait till it’s over and done with.
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  • Jessica
    VIP September 2020
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    We purposely gave ourselves a 19 month engagement knowing we would need the time to plan and save, but seriously there are days I just want to go down and get our marriage certificate and be married already and done with this whole thing! We have been together 6.5 years, have a 5 yo and a 4 yo together, and also bought a house two years ago- so I understand! While I do want a wedding and celebration, sometimes I wonder how much of it is actually for us and how much is because I feel like it’s what we should do or my family or his would be upset if we didn’t. So far I’ve been having fun planning, but at the same time I feel like I’ve been split in so many directions already and with school starting it’s going to get worse.

    It’s a lot of stress, but you’ve got this! At the end of the day, what matters is that you’ll be married! Take care!
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  • Melle
    Champion June 2019
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    I usually said I was excited rather than nervous and people would give me looks too aha. And yes I usually also said I would be so relieved when the planning is all done. Because you do just want the day to be here since it's what you've worked up towardsb
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  • L
    Beginner September 2019
    Lisa ·
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    Yes! I was just saying this the other day! I am done telling people the truth because they just expect to hear how great it is. Just because planning sucks doesn’t mean you’re not super excited to be married.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
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    Most people don't know all the hard work that goes into wedding planning until they're planning one themselves. I don't think you're being dramatic or ungrateful!

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  • bethf
    Devoted August 2019
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    Exactly!! lol I am just going to hit everyone with a "fine" Smiley sexy

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  • Jennifer
    VIP September 2020
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    Thanks sweetie! Have a Beautiful wedding!
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  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
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    Totally understand where you are coming from. Wedding planning with two kids who take sports is exhausting. One just went back to school and the other one will here shortly.

    I am ready for the day to be here, as well.

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  • Ashley
    Expert October 2020
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    I always just say good and we are having excited. We have 429 days to go so I will be getting this question a lot.

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