Am i right to be annoyed or am i being a bridezilla?

No. You ultimately have control over their attire. Not only because you’re the bride, but because you also paid for it. Tell her that you’re not a fan of the embellishments and she can stick with the original dress and belt or exchange for a different dress.

No you're not. This is your day and you were very clear about what to order and even offered to help fix the situation when she wasn't happy.

Personally, I'd be ok with the embellishments... I think it sounds lovely.
Contrasting colors are so much more sophisticated than one flat shade.
At least let her show you the finished product before you veto it.She's your sister, let her shine a little too, it may be fabulous!
It doesn't seem like something to get upset about, in my opinion. It's your day,but she is a big part of your day and your happiness.We , as brides can't expect to control every aspect of the day.
Give her a chanceJust my two cents.

I personally agree with you. I think embellishments make it too distracting sometimes as a bridesmaid not that it'll take away from the brides beauty but at same time I don't feel like bridesmaid dresses should typically be super flashy

View Quoted Comment I think you're comment comes from a good place but I disagree with it. No disrespect to her sister but it's not her day so why does she have to shine. Really it's the bride that it's supposed to shine and ultimately I personally feel like her sister was the one that liked this dress and picked it out and now she's trying to change it and that's not cool. I think every bride has an idea of how they want their bridesmaids to look and once agreed upon I don't think that a bridesmaid should decide she wants to add all these embellishments because it could look good but it could also look tacky. Also maybe the embellishments that she wants to add don't go with the theme of the wedding or anything like that. I get that her sisters and maid of honor and maybe wants to have some things to make her stand out but it sounds like she's also trying to make herself really pop when ultimately it's the bride's day to pop. But of course as I always say every bride is different so for you you wouldn't mind it but I don't think it's a logical that she's bothered by it.

No. You’re not being a bridezilla.... but you need to be one in this situation. Lol!! 3D flowers and vines? That sounds terrible. And to alter the dress without your input is too much. Possibly you can bring swatches of your wedding colors to show her that the fuchsia doesn't look good together and explain that you didn’t have floral dresses in mind. Or maybe involve your mom as the neutral “bad cop” who also expresses to your sister that her dress won’t work.

She can embellish it to wear again AFTER the Wedding.


These decorations scream “Look at ME, not the 👰”‼️

No you’re not at all. It’s your day not hers and she needs to respect your wishes. I would tell her she needs to wear the dress “as is” unless you approve a ch she to be made to it.

View Quoted Comment I want everyone in my bridal party to shine. I want everyone to feel beautiful. It's their day as much as mine, because they were picked by me to share the day and stand up for me.
It doesn't mean that I have to control each and every aspect of how they look.
I'm definitely not that bride. You will see when you have reached the age I am. Don't sweat the small things, because a little hot pink added to a dress will not make or break a wedding. If it makes her sister happy, I don't see the harm.I'm agreeable to any changes my bridesmaids make to feel beautiful.

You are 100% in the right, not only because you really let your girls have free reign, but because you paid for them. You have the right to make her change it, or she can pay you for the dress.

No. You gave her leeway and she didn't accept your offer. Since it's her dress, if she wants to add the flowers after the wedding, that's her prerogative. But for your wedding, she should respect your wishes.

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I see your point. I understand you on age because at 38 there is not much that I would be as anal about but I think it is not an age thing rather how every bride envisions there day and some times it is down to their bridesmaids look. I think they should look beautiful and I think on my day I would want to be the main one to shine but for my feelings I am the last of my friend's to get married so for me I have waited for a day I thought may not come. Now realistically everyone will focus on her because she is the bride but if she does not feel happy with the change to the dress I think if that was not the concept. I guess my perspective as a many times bridesmaid I wear what the bride wants. There have been colors or hair styles I did not like but if it was what she wanted I went with it. I think that each bride is different and I like that you want them to shine too.