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Astrid
Savvy September 2020

Am i required to hold my destination wedding during school vacations?

Astrid, on December 28, 2019 at 1:31 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

My fiance and I live in Italy, but 90% of our guest list is either in the US, Guatemala, or his hometown, which is 6 hours away from us. Since it's a "destination wedding" for all of those people, I feel like I must include children on the guest list (which I don't want to do, but can't imagine asking people to ditch their kids while they jet off overseas). Am I also required to have it during the summer to accommodate the guests with children? Summertime prices make it doubly expensive/difficult for anyone who wants to come (our town is completely overrun with tourists and traffic during July/August). And during the 11 years that I was a school teacher, I don't recall anyone ever taking my teaching schedule into account - I was simply expected to ditch my classes and fly overseas. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Astrid, on January 15, 2020 at 8:36 AM
  • Jennifer
    Super March 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    We have a destination wedding as well and our families are all living in different states. Each guest lives anywhere from 6 hours to 24 hours away. We decided to pick a date and run with it. Trying to appease every schedule will drive you nuts and you aren't obligated to forfeit a date just to ensure guests children can attend. Also, If you don't want kids, you always could hire a sitter for the night as well. Just an idea. And finally, I know plenty of parents who leave their children as they travel to another country. My parents did and it was no sweat off anyone's backs! Honestly, it was kind of fun having a new face around! I was 17 at the time and it didn't phase us at all! Also, parents need a break from their kids sometimes haha. At the end of the day, I wouldn't put too much effort into finding the perfect date, especially if costs are that much more.
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  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
    Nicole ·
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    I don’t think you need to take school schedules into account, but be ready to have those with children potentially decline because of it.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You’re not required to do anything, but you should expect to have a higher decline rate unless you have it in the summer.
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  • Monique
    Master December 2019
    Monique ·
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    I agree with pp. you are not required to do anything. It is your wedding. People with children may decline if they do not want to take their children out of school to go to the wedding.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Nope. Have your wedding whenever you want. If people don't want to take off work to come, then they wont come. But it is you and your fiance's wedding. Do what makes you happy.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    Have your wedding when you want! If you try to accommodate everyone, you will never be able to set a date!

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
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    Nope. Do what you want, when you want.
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  • Astrid
    Savvy September 2020
    Astrid ·
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    Thank you all for your input. I've already had FOUR people try to influence me about when we set the date. My mother took it upon herself to tell relatives that we're getting married in 2021, without ever discussing it with us (I've since done damage control through messages relayed to my cousins). I understand that people want to be able to come, but I've never heard of guests putting pressure on the engaged couple about when to set the date. I'm appalled! Has that happened to any of you?

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