Am I required to attend bridal shower? Please help!!!

Go ahead and pass, it's no big deal.

Just make sure to RSVP no. Don't just leave her wondering.

It's definitely not mandatory although I do think it would be nice to make an effort to get to know your FH's family a little better. If you decide not to go then you need to at least send a decent enough gift. Since it's so last minute I'm assuming they just want the gift anyway.

I would just RSVP no. Don't worry about it! Hopefully there will be other events you can attend with you FH so you can get to know the family better

I think you should consider going for her. It sounds like you don't want to go because of you. I had multiple people at mine who didn't know anyone and I would have totally been bummed if they didn't come just on the fact that they didn't know anyone other than me.

If you feel that you want this boyfriend to one day be your husband then yes I think you should make the effort to go. I went to FHs aunt's baby shower a few years ago and I am super uncomfortable with big parties. It helped me connect with my now FMIL and FSIL as well as other members of his family (especially my favorite other aunt of his). Considering big parties are a norm for his family it also helped me get more practice in before getting the ring lol. His family could possibly be your family someday and if you want that then go. If you're not sure what you want yet then don't. Depending on his family and how long you've been dating it could possibly look rude but only you would know that.

We are going to the wedding in 2 months and already purchased a VERY nice gift. I don't want any attention taken from her with people meeting or being introduced to me. It's her shower and it should only be about her. It wouldn't make me feel as awkward if we were going as a couple like we will be for the wedding and him being there to introduce me. I plan to get to know his family but think there is a better time than the shower. If I don't go I hope that he doesn't get upset with me. I'm sure he will understand my reasoning for being so uncomfortable. My biggest problem was that she would think it was rude I didn't show

Just a couple of thoughts : 1- it's pretty normal for invitees to baby/bridal showers to not know more than 1 or 2 people at the showers, and it's a good opportunity to get to know other members of his family. 2- I consider myself close-ish to my own family and only see them 2-3 times a year, so 5+ times sounds pretty often to me....

All that being said (and assuming you're not actually in the wedding of course), if the location is fairly convenient to you, I think you should try to go - even for just a little while, and bug out with "another commitment" early if you're too uncomfortable. If you're really not that close, and you don't think she would miss you however, feel free to RSVP no, send a gift ahead if possible, and call it good.

Ok let me be detailed about how often we see them. Yes 5 times compared to your 2-3 does sound pretty often. I guess I should have pointed out that when we do see her never has it been longer than 1 hour if even that long. And I also should have stated that I do know his family on his fathers side but his mothers side is the family that I haven't gotten to know. That is due to his past. Anyhow your 2-3 times a year actually is probably more than my 5 if you take the amount of time that we have spent together.

I once was at a birthday party and I only knew the birthday girl. I just started hanging out with the first group of people that came in. It ended up in a conversation that that group of people didn't know the birthday girl but just her boyfriend! One of them was a bride to be and she was completating on wether she should invite my friend (the birthday girl) to her bridal shower (or something like that). She said she probably would because she would be at the wedding too. I talked to my friend a few weeks later about it and she ended up not going. I thought it was a bit sad for the bride to be honest. Because she was going back and forth for inviting her in the first place and didn't want to exclude her If she did want to come. But on the other hand I think the bride to be was fine with this refusal too from what I heard her saying.

I don't believe that you being introduced to people will take away from the bride. How important is this to FH? If it is really important to him go, if it's not then don't but it could be a lost opportunity to better get to know his family.

Pass. Showers aren't fun for all guests, especially when you invite people you aren't really close to. Then it just seems like you were invited for getting more presents. My wife passed on my cousin's wife's shower for the exact reasons you're mentioning. No big deal.

It sounds like you have already made up your mind. RSVP no, send a gift, and call it a day.

You are arguing with people why you shouldn't go- so don't. RSVP no, send a gift and just don't go.

Should you go? Probably. Do you have to go? Absolutely not. Decline and send a nice gift.

You can RSVP no. And while it would be nice to send a gift off her registry, I don't think it's mandatory.

Yes, it is rude to no show with out a legit excuse, work, a wedding ect. and may crop up as an issue with the BF that you didn't go to something for his family, when you want him to do something with your family. I will tell you what my mama told me about attending things for ghe FH's family (that I don't know well) put on your big girl panties and go