FH and I currently rent a 4 br apt, we are looking to rent a 4 br home next year for about 3 years while we continue to save up for a down-payment and our wedding. Due to Corona his siblings came to live with us his sister 23 and brother 21, a few months passed and brother didn't want to live with us anymore and went back home to Chicago with his parents. His sister is still with us trying to find a job, we do have our own business and whenever needed she helps on it so we do give her $ for it.
FH wants eventually to bring his parents into our home and have his dad retire and help with the business. I have no problem with that as we can eventually have him mom take care of the kids, shes beyond excited and has been asking for grandkids forever. Where I may be over thinking is that even getting a minimum 4 br home, will only give us a room for FH and I, one for his folks, and his siblings who I don't see moving out for some year in the other two rooms, leaves no room for children. I am 28 at this time and FH is 33/34, getting our own home in 3 years or so I'll be in my 30s and will want to get the kids rolling before I'm "mature". I do have some health problems that will (a) make it hard to get pregnant, (b) make it a risky pregnancy, (c) this disease will progress the longer I wait I don't want to be less of a mom to my kids. But since I don't see his siblings moving out and moving on to begin their own life for longer than 5 years, I don't like having to put our life as a couple on hold.
We have spoken and he says they will eventually move out but he doesn't see my point about me not having enough time to wait on them. His parents come into our home is hand on hand with bringing in their younger kids. Yes I can get pregnant and the baby sleep with me and him for two years or so. Eventually I will have to be the B and kick one of his siblings out of a room. Am I overthinking? I forgot to mention he wants an office space, adding an extra room, adding extra cost. What are your thoughts, your advise, your way of dealing if you were me?