Hey y’all,
I’m having a serious dilemma and trying to figure out if I’m completely overreacting and need some advice on how to handle this from maybe an outside point of view!
My fiancé and I got engaged in October 2021 and shortly after chose our date for October 2022. The end of November we asked our bridesmaids and groomsmen to be apart of our day. This obviously included asking my best friend to be my MOH, to which she said yes and was extremely excited. Fast forward to the end of December and she got engaged. They chose their date, and did not reveal it to anyone prior to asking their party to stand up with them. Well, turns out their date is going to be in September THREE WEEKS before ours. She also asked me to be her MOH, which I’m thrilled about but I am extremely overwhelmed and honestly, my feelings are hurt. I feel it’s going to be extremely difficult to make sure we both have special, separate days/experiences with our dates being this close. Not only does this affect everything prior (bridal showers, bachelorette parties, etc) but this is definitely going to be financially difficult for both of us (our fiancés are also standing up for each other) I explained this to her but she doesn’t seem to understand why I am upset about her decision to book her date that close to ours after making a commitment as my MOH and with how this is going, it is taking the joy and excitement out of planning. Also, a lot of our decisions are very similar which I know is inevitable, but I actually had to ask her to not have the same food and decor as us ugh. I’m trying my best to be supportive and help her with her day, but I can’t help but feel slightly resentful. Has anyone dealt with anything like this? Am I being crazy? How should I handle this? Help!!