Am i overanalyzing

I don’t see the issue....

View Quoted Comment Oh ok..why did he shake hands at the end then?

View Quoted Comment Because he didn’t want a hug? People are allowed to have boundaries, that doesn’t mean something is wrong.

So what happened? Overthinking what?

View Quoted Comment Right. But i bumped into him at a wedding he photographying and he hugged me when we bumped into each other.

View Quoted Comment Right. But i bumped into him at a wedding he photographying and he hugged me when we bumped into each other.

I think you’re way overthinking this! Your photographer probably didn’t even give the hug or handshake any thought or as PP say he just has boundaries. As far as hugging at the wedding, he probably just got caught up in the moment (the shock, the excitement, the feel good wedding vibes). You also weren’t a “client” in that moment. I’m not a huge hugger so I get it.

The fact that I read this and couldnt see any issue whatsoever leads me to believe you are overanalyzing the situation. I'm sure everything is okay!

You're over-analyzing. He probably just wanted to keep the departure professional since it was the end of a business transaction.

View Quoted Comment So everything is ok then? Also he said thank u for your business. So did he forget i hired him for my wedding?

Based on the information you've provided (which is a little confusing), I'd say you are definitely over-analyzing. I'd expect that if you hired your photographer, you like him and his work, and have a contract? If that's all true, I'd assume he KNOWS you hired him for your wedding, and unless you're going to be best friends with him, it does not matter if he shakes hands with you or hugs you in greeting/leave taking. I'd assume all is good and move on to something else.

View Quoted Comment You're right! . Im confused why he said thank you for your business?

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Because he just shot your engagement photos and he appreciates that you hired him? "Thank you for your business" is not a weird thing for a person to say when they just performed a service that you are paying them for....

I'm not a hugger, so I'd prefer to shake hands in any situation with a vendor.

Yeah this is not worth worrying about. Both are perfectly appropriate greetings.

Despite all your responses I still can’t fathom where you’re getting the idea that you may have done something wrong. You didn’t. You’re fine. You’re way over analyzing. Maybe that’s how he ends all his shoots. Maybe “thanks for your business” meant “hey I see you have a connection with this other photographer since your friend used them, and I’m glad you chose me” . Maybe the initial hug was a moment where he recognized you and knew he knew you but hadn’t exactly placed you , or he had but the out of context moment made him act in a more familiar way than he otherwise would have, or maybe wedding cocktails made his greeting a little extra friendly. Maybe he just mixes up greetings, sometimes he hugs sometimes he waves sometimes he shakes hands, because variety is the spice of life. Maybe at the end of the photo shoot his back was bothering him and he thought a hug would be physically uncomfortable. Maybe all of these things are true or maybe none of these things are true but at the end of it all is: NONE of those things are of ANY consequence, and in no case did you do anything wrong. Don’t worry about it!

Ok i was more worried about that i did some wrong

I wouldn't worry at all about it! Maybe he didn't want to make you uncomfortable by hugging you again. Maybe he didn't think about it. Maybe he was a bit sweaty or self-conscious after the photo shoot? There are times when I meet up with my BFF and we hug when we see each other then we don't hug goodbye. I seriously wouldn't worry because I'm positive it's nothing.