Am I invited?

YIKES! I would say no, you are not invited if it was only addressed to your FH.

Poor etiquette on their part though if you've been ENGAGED for 10 months!

Even if you were just dating you should have been invited. I suppose your FH could ask if you can go, but ultimately I'd probably be salty about it and just not go anyway. I think it's up to your FH if he wants to ask, go alone, or just not go at all - at this point.

This happened to me. My cousin addressed the invitation to only me, but the RSVP card said that 1 guest was allowed. Confusing since H and I were having our COM 5 days later. Was I the guest or was I allowed to bring a guest? I reached out and she'd just made a mistake. Just have him ask.

"Hey. I saw that the invitation is addressed to me only. Does this mean that FW isn't invited?"

Yikes! That's rude of them.

I don't condone this, but I'd have FH RSVP for two. If I were in his shoes, I'd write, "Your Name, my fiancée of 10+ months."

If they come back with you not being invited purposely, I'd decline attending altogether and send a monogramed lawn gnome as a wedding gift.

^However, this is the petty thing to do, and I'm in a petty mood, haha. Don't do this.

On a serious note, I'd have FH give them a call for clarification as to whether or not you, his fiancée, is invited.

Unfortunately since it was only address to FH, you are not invited. How long have you been together, other than your engagement? Maybe it was an oversight and they didn't know the length of your relationship status.

My FH and I were together only a year when he was invited to a wedding, his invitation was address the same way. He, however, asked if he was able to bring a plus one. But they were close friends since grade school, thankfully I got lucky. I hope the best for you! It wouldn't hurt for him to ask as he is a guest, for a plus one.

My niece only sent the invite to me, but apparently my FH is invited. So maybe they are just clueless or forgot your name.

Oh no, Op it doesn't sound like you have been invited. I am hoping it is just bad etiquette. This happened to me after FW and I got engaged. It was for a friend and not family though. Unfortunately it wasn't an oversight for me....I agree with @Felicia to have FH speak to them (maybe without having to flat out ask). Crossing my fingers for you! Keep us posted.

It would be an incredible oversight if they forgot to add a name to you FH's invitation. I would go with you're not invited. If you're not comfortable with confrontation, I wouldn't say anything! This kind of thing I would expect for my FH to stick up for me in some way but that's just me.

We're been dating over two years. The wedding is in CA and my FH seemed on the fence about going even before this. He would not go without me. I'm mostly ticked off that were inviting 5 couples from this one family and they don't even have the tact to invite me.

It most definitely seems you are not invited, but they could just be idiots and not know how to do stuff correctly.. I am finding the world is full of them.

If I were your FH I would just give em a call and say "My Fiance is invited too right? Because she is not anywhere on this invitation".

I would assume this is an oversight. RSVP with both of you (if you plan on attending).

You've been together two years?

Fuck it. I'd send the monogrammed lawn gnome regardless now.

I would just ask. My step sister didn't realize that I was with FH when her invitations were sent out. He had just moved in and we were already planning the wedding. But it was just a mistake.

I wouldn't get too upset. I was invited to a wedding in May for a not so close cousin. FH have been together over 5 years, but has only met this cousin once. FH was not on the invite. I didn't go, simply because I couldn't afford travel before my wedding.

Just ask. It might be an oversight. If it was intentional, FH doesn't need to go and there's no need to get upset. Rude? Sure. Worth your time? Absolutely not.

I think your FH needs to talk with them. Not everyone knows the ins and outs of how to address an envelope. They may have just put his name because he's the one they are closest with. Does the RSVP card state how many seats are reserved?

What does the rsvp card say? Anything about #of seats?

@Jay, you crack me up! I woke up in a petty mood today...garden gnomes for everyone!!

Well that's rude. I would go with FH anyways, lol.

I received an invite for a wedding I was a bridesmaid in ( I am not very close with her though). The invite came only in my name. I ended up just asking her and she gave the excuse that she couldn't remember my FH's last name so she only put mine. Bad etiquette on her part IMO. But if I were you I would ask, or have FH ask since it is his family.

You aren't invited. I would take a solid look at who you have invited from that family to your wedding. You all might not be as close as you thought.

Oversight or not, I'd be pissed. I would just reply "no" and not say anything further, especially if your FH didn't even want to go in the first place.