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Am I going to regret having a small wedding?

Becky, on April 10, 2017 at 2:54 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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My FH and I have decided to do a crazy small DW weekend and then do a celebration/reception back up north a few months later for those that we wanted to invite but couldn't because we're capped at 18 people (plus us for a total of 20). So it's literally immediate family and best friends/wedding party. Am I going to regret not having people I'm incredibly close to at my ceremony but can't include because I'm tapped out at 18 people? If we wanted to change our plans and add more people, it would increase cost by several thousand dollars and we're paying for it ourselves and can't really swing that. The 18-people plan is much more affordable but I'm starting to realize how many people I'm going to miss day of. Help?? (On mobile/app so sorry if any format or spelling issues)

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Latest activity by LilBit, on April 10, 2017 at 4:08 PM

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BecomingABenton · on April 10, 2017 at 2:57 PM
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At the end of the day, you are marrying your best friend. Properly host as many as you can afford and you will regret nothing.
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JDSquared · on April 10, 2017 at 2:57 PM
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So long as you have your nearest and dearest you will be ecstatic! It's not about the amount of guests, it's about marrying your best friend!
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SleepytheDwarf · on April 10, 2017 at 2:59 PM
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No stranger on the internet can answer this question for you.
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Mikaela · on April 10, 2017 at 3:01 PM
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I am only having 25 guests, including my FH and I. The only thing that matters is it being special because you are marrying the love of your life! People come and go and only that person who will always be by your side as your spouse is truly important.
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Becky · on April 10, 2017 at 3:12 PM
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Thanks everyone <3
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Carissa Brittney · on April 10, 2017 at 3:15 PM
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No regrets here! We have about 50 people but I really would like you fewer guests than that. Just can't be done for us without hurting feelings. I marrying my best friend and that is the most beautiful part of the day. Being able to host my gas properly is also a plus of having fewer people. And, to be honest, I feel almost zero stress regarding the day because it is so low key and simple! Everyone keeps saying they wish they did it like us.
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Becky · on April 10, 2017 at 3:47 PM
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@OHP it's a destination wedding for our guests but local for us (almost all our friends and my family live out of the state I/we live in now). So that's some of my struggle. I don't know if the guest list contains everyone I want but that was the whole point of having the event back up north after.
Thanks everyone <3
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E.V. · on April 10, 2017 at 4:01 PM
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I went from planning a wedding for 100+ to 25 and couldn't be happier. We will be sharing our day with those that we are closest to and actually see on a regular basis. We will get to really spend time with them since we won't have to make the rounds to see 100+ people all the while trying to do the typical wedding things. We can also afford to go all out for them now (more than is required) since we don't have as many mouths to feed. I don't know if you will regret it or not, but try to think of quality over quantity.
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LilBit · on April 10, 2017 at 4:08 PM
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We had 30 guests and I even said out loud "How do people with 150 guests DO THIS??". Then I realized MOST of those couples are about 20 years younger than us!!!

I DO NOT regret having 30 guests. I wanted to elope on the beach with just the 2 of us, but hubby (this is the first time I'm typing this on this forum!!! YAY!!!) did not want to disappoint his mom. I am really glad we had parents and siblings there. It was a GREAT day with family
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