Am i crazy?

Personally I say you should plan your wedding for whenever you want. You don’t have to work everything around others. It will be tricky and expensive with all of the other weddings around the same time but you should have it when you want.

It would be courteous to give them at least a 2 week separation, for people going to both. You are proposing about a month, which is great. The spring and summer before our wedding, my now hubby and I each had 2 siblings marry, and 5 first cousins who lived in our neighborhoods growing up. So huge guest list overlaps. The best we could manage was 3 weeks after one and 4 weeks before another. And my sibs were spread 6 weeks apart, his at least 5. The summer of many weddings. It was so much fun, planning, helping each other. No one felt upstaged, or that their parties or weddings suffered for lack of family or friends. We set our date later than others, only a 5 month engagement. A couple of others had been engaged before we even met. So it was good that as we were older a little , we were planning all along to pay everything for ourselves. Where those before and after us were getting some help from older relatives. So no one felt that at the last minute, we would take anything from them. Part of why everyone was so accepting, I am sure. But in big families like ours, to have 2-5 births, 2-5 weddings, and several graduations, in any year, was common for a full decade . Many times kids raised in families with 1-2 kids, get bent out of shape when asked to share attention. Good luck planning, hope everyone sees one more wedding as a happy thing for both families .

I wouldnt change my wedding date for anyone unless it was literally the same weekend. There's no reason you can't get married in June. My only concern would be any out of town guests who would need to travel for your wedding in June and then again for your FBIL's wedding in August.

It doesn’t matter who’s been dating longer, or who got engaged first, just plan your day when it works for you. Understand that some family who are traveling might not be able to make both weddings though. I had two daughters marry the same year 4 months apart. Some family made both, some made one or the other. We have a wedding tomorrow which is the 2nd of two nephews and their weddings are 3 weeks apart. This will be our 3rd wedding in a month!! It happens, and we are attending all of them.

View Quoted Comment Luckily for my FH and FBIL most of their family is local (within a 2 hour drive) and ours is a backyard wedding on 5 acres so we'll have a place for a little camp out for out of town guests.

I agree with PP's, plan your wedding for when you and your FH want. Don't worry about anyone else's date.

Girl, it's your day! Those couples get a DAY they don't get to block off an entire MONTH. As long as they don't fall on the same day, I say have your wedding whenever you want. Don't feel the need to explain yourself to them

I think you should plan YOUR day when YOU want it. however you pictured your perfect day is what you should do. Don't put yourself back or change your wedding around others. If they get upset that's not fair of them. This is happy times for all of you and you all should be equally excited for each other.

I agree with other posters. Plan your wedding for when you want it. Having a month separation is more than enough! If you're planning for a summer 2020 wedding though I would start planning now and setting a date. I know you mentioned a backyard wedding, but you will still need to lock down rentals and a caterer.

View Quoted Comment If you're planning a backyard wedding and that some guests might camp out, my number one concern would be the best weather possible. I'm not sure where you're located, but I'd look at multi-year weather averages for the dates/times of year under consideration and as long as it doesn't directly overlap with the other weddings, I'd go for the date with the best chance of pleasant weather for the type of wedding you are planning. (Even then, I'm a strong believer in planning a wedding with an excellent weather-related "Plan B," that includes a tent, hotel rooms, etc., whatever might be necessary to protect guests from blazing sun or torrential rain, etc.)