My really really good friend and are both engaged. I moved mine from Oct ‘20 to Nov ‘21, and she has always been March 2022. My mother has been in the works with our family about my bridal shower for the end of June, which I just found out. I had know idea about this because it was SUPPOSED to be a surprise, and she hadn’t told anyone but immediate family to get plane tickets moving. My friend started a group texted with girls about her June 2021 (9 months before her wedding) bach party the same weekend, and the Airbnb is booked. No heads up to seeing what my mom was cooking up. My mom wasn’t thinking about her plans, because she didn’t expect her to have a bach weekend 9 months before her wedding. I’m really hurt she didn’t ask me what my even plans were, what my availability was as another bride and work together on it. I could of easily asked my mom for her and or her reach out to her. Summer is already tight. I just think my friend should of asked my mom what her plans were for my bridal shower, and that weekend only works for my family. She already booked her Airbnb and everything, didn’t consider my planning at all. I’m not asking to involve you in all of your plans, but when two close friends are engaged, I expected a little transparency and consideration from her to me, my sister who’s helping my mom, my mom, and my FMIL.
And I wrong to be hurt? On top of all of it, she told my mom she “doesn’t need to get approval from her on her own planning”. As if that’s what my mom was asking for. My mom thought a kind text of, hey I was planning my a bach party for the summer, what are you plans with Maureen’s bridal shower looking like?” Would of been perfectly fine. I just feel hurt, so am I wrong to feel this way? It feels very behind my back.