Am i Being Crazy?

They still have a week to RSVP. If they don't send it back by the deadline, contact them and say "our RSVP deadline was x-date and we noticed that we haven't received yours. Our final headcount is due soon. If we don't hear from you by y-date, we will assume that you're unable to attend."

Most people I notice don't RSVP til the very last second so maybe they'll do so too. I'm sure the groomsmen will get their stuff done! My bridesmaid literally didn't get her dress til three days before the wedding ahah so they'll get their stuff done and figured out !

Don’t stress it. I really didn’t get many RSVP back. Only my friends did. Not even my own mother which I knew of course she was coming. I feel like sometimes you just need to call them and ask, no need to pick up the actual card. Out of 27 invitations we send I got back 6 or 7. That’s all! Of course I got confirmation or decline from the others somehow. I feel like family is the worst because they assume you know they are coming. You’re not alone! This is common just handle it and don’t stress it. Divide the list between you and fiancé and text or call each invite.

Most our bridesmaids & groomsmen didn't RSVP, and none of our parents did. I think they were assumed to attend since they were in the wedding. What is the deadline for tuxes? We had to contact over 60 people after our RSVP date but it barely took any time at all between the two of us (and my mom & father in law) so I wouldn't worry. A lot of people don't RSVP, that's unfortunately just how it is now. We included stamped and addressed RSVP cards and gave people an option to do it online.

I think some people (especially if they are part of the wedding) feel as if they don't have to RSVP because its "obvious" that they will be there... maybe just give them a friendly reminder via call/text or just verbally confirm that they're coming so you can finalize your seating chart or whatnot. As for the tuxes, yeah i get it, it would stress me out too! i'm having issues with my ladies' bridesmaid dresses and not all the girls being available to try on dresses together (or showing up over an hour late for an appointment and only having time to try on one dress...) Anyway, try not to stress it and dont be afraid to reach out to remind them to send out their RSVPs! it'll all work out

Have they told you they were going? They may not know they have to RSVP. Like PP said, it's just kind of assumed a lot of the time.

If you spend any time on these forums, you will quickly realize that this is a common problem, and one I'm not looking forward to. But people are just really bad about RSVPing. They really think it doesn't matter.

This is why you should wait until a few days past the deadline, and contact everyone you haven't heard from yet. Tell them you need a final head count, and if you don't hear from them by XX date (a few days away, or whatever your head count deadline is), then we'll have to count you as a "no" and there won't be a seat or a meal for you.

Sometimes you have to be just that blunt about it. But you and FH know your crowd better than we do, so maybe you won't have to be that blunt. Try not to stress. It will all work out.

As for the GMs and their tuxes, you (or FH) can give them a similar deadline. Either they get fitted by a certain date, or they can come as a guest and wear whatever they want. Simple, to the point. Done. FH should be in charge of that task, since they are his GMs.

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They're rented tuxes so they need to be fitted a month before the wedding date. That means their deadline is next week.

I actually considered doing an online option but the problem was a lot of his family has zero knowledge of computers and I was afraid people would RSVP and not give their meal choice since it's a sit down dinner.

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Most of the people who didn't RSVP are his relatives. So I haven't heard either way although my FH insists that everyone he invited is for sure going to come.

It's a sit down dinner so they do have to make a meal choice on the RSVP card. It's not just a yes or no kinda thing.

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More than half our groomsmen rented theirs a couple days before it needed to be done, and they could do it online! It's just how GM are I guess! Yeah unfortunately you just will have to reach out (which is annoying) but just part of modern day planning I think!

I'm in the exact same boat as far has his side of the family not RSVPing and the fact that only one groomsman has a suit - deadlines are august 15th for RSVP - we are going to sit down and call each guest who has not responded and ask them there on the spot - if they are not sure then we're only giving them til the next weekend to figure it out until we call them again. For our groomsmen we are doing black on black on black so I really don't care at this point if they all have the same suit - I just want them to at least have SOMETHING.

I think I'm doing pretty good at not becoming a bridezilla though. It takes a lot of deep breaths and reminding myself that I can do it and venting to my FH like c r a z y every night.

Chiming in with all the PPs. We got a flood of RSVPs on our deadline and a few after. We gave them a week before individually calling people - thankfully we added a buffer so we weren't pressed for getting the exact numbers yet. Groomsmen are always quite slow to take action in the planning process. My husband prodded but, in the back of my mind, I figured worst case they could sit in front during the ceremony if they didn't have the correct outfit. 😅

Almost none of my husbands guests RSVPd. I had to contact all of them. So annoying.

It's annoying, but you need to follow up with guests who haven't RSVP'ed yet. It's part of the process, unfortunately!

Girl, same! So far we've only heard from one of my FHs sisters, everyone else who has so far has been my family. None of his family showed for our Jack and Jill and I'm really worried they won't for the wedding. Our RSVP date is 8/20 so there is still time but I'm ready to start calling people now.