Am i being crazy? Lol

Yikes! I had to tell my bridesmaids to go in no later than Sept 28 for March 28 wedding. Dresses came in in 6 weeks. And now I'm freaking out because I'll have one 6mo. Pregnant bridesmaid and one 5 mo. Pregnant with twins bridesmaid. But still... they have dresses, we just dont know if theyll fit...


I was in a friends wedding in late April, and went in to get measured in late January. After she picked out the dress. I was the first girl there and they threw a fit because I was so late... they came in with no problems.
I'd consider telling them they have to order by a specific date.
This would freak me out. As a bride and a potentially naked bridesmaid.

Your not being crazy! I have heard sights like azazie have amazing reviews not sure how fast the turn around time is. one of my bridesmaids just got a davids bridals bridesmaids dress from savers! and it looks amazing and she only needs to get it hemmed. tell them to get shopping!

I feel ya. I got married last June and literally all of them lagged and got dresses like in the month or two before but ONE of them lagged the most and got hers three days before .

I would not be happy. They should have been ordered months ago. Unless your okay with everyone being different/ off the rack... I could care less if they are long or short but i want them all in the same material and getting them ordered at davids bridal I was told 6-4 months. I have 8 bridesmaids tho so idk....

The only request I had for my girls was the color. Outside of that I don't really care what they are wearing. I just want my best people with me on that day. You need to decide if it is more important what they are wearing or if its more important to have them there. If it's what they are wearing, then you need to give them a hard deadline and let them know that if for some reason they cannot have their dress ordered by whatever date, they will be attending as a guest and not in the bridal party. Otherwise, try to relax. Most places pad the "must order by" date. I was told it would be 3 months for delivery when I ordered my wedding gown...it was delivered a month after I ordered it.

You are not crazy!! If it helps, David's Bridal is extremely quick getting dresses delivered. One of my girls got theirs the same week she ordered it, and no one waited more than 3 weeks. I'm so sorry your friends are doing this! No bride deserves that kind of stress so close to the wedding!

View Quoted Comment The only request I have is also the color and I’d like them to be floor length. Other than that, I don’t care as long as they are comfortable. And I told them this several months back. My wedding dress took 3 full months to come in.

Don’t freak out. My wedding is May 2nd, and only maid MOH has ordered hers. We are ordering from azazie and they can choose whatever they want in the right color. I told them based on what i read on Azazie to order by mid February.
These are grown women with real lives, I’m not going to micromanage their dress ordering, if for some reason it doesn’t get done then i guess they’re wearing a navy dress they find elsewhere 🤷🏼‍♀️ And honestly that would be fine with me.
And if they don’t get the dress that you asked them to get and it’s important to you then they can be a guest that day instead. But honestly, let it be on them to worry about, you don’t need another thing to cause you stress when for the most part it’s out of your control

You are NOT the crazy one!

OK so this happened to me, too. I gave them all the colors and told them they could get them anywhere they wanted in their assigned color as long as it was floor length. They agreed to this! I even sent them a list of dresses I liked on Amazon that were within their budgets. Fast forward to end of December and not one of them has purchased a dress. The wedding is Feb 15th. I call David's and they say it will take 6 weeks to get dresses in and that's not including alterations, which puts us at Feb 15. Nobody has tried on dresses at all.

So I go on Amazon again. I find dresses ranging from $20 - 70. I send the list (2nd time now) and say, "Pick one you like." I hear back from 2/3 ladies and they both like one of the dresses. The 3rd maid stays silent. So I assign them all this dress and say, "Order it NOW". The other 2 order their dresses immediately. I finally hear from BM #3 a week later that she HATES the dress. Too bad, so sad. She had a year to pick one and then stayed radio silent when it came down to the wire. Lo and behold, every girl needed to send their dress back because it was too big or too small. Last week they finally got dresses in and now they're all in alterations. Phew! This was a CRAZY month!

You have a LOT of tasks to do between now and April - babysitting your maids shouldn't be one of them. Shame on them for putting it off so long. If they don't order this week, you should just pick for them and tell them to order by X date.

Honestly I would be freaking out. Dresses can take a few months to come in and then alterations may be needed. I am getting in married in April as well and I had my last bridesmaid order hers the first week of January. She received it within 2 weeks as they had it in stock but it needs a lot of alterations and that does not always happen where it came in that early. I would strongly urge them to get this done ASAP!!! Good Luck!

You are not being crazy. I made an appointment for my girls to go try on dresses this month for my October wedding. They are all aware that they need to make a decision soon and dresses need to be paid for when they are ordered. I want there to be time to have some wiggle room if necessary. I would definitely tell your girls that they need to be ordered ASAP!

Whoa, that is crazy! My wedding is in October, and my bridal consultant (and Wedding Wire) says to have BMs dresses ordered by April - 6 months out. You have every right to be upset. I would honestly be ON them, they are causing you unnecessary stress!!

I don't think you should be stressing so much over this. If all they need to do is get a floor-length blush-colored dress, they can get it from almost anywhere. They should easily be able to find dresses that fit those parameters that will be here by April. They're adults. They know the requirements. Don't micromanage them. Let them get the dresses on their own timelines. At most I would just remind them of the requirements and that some designers/sources take a few months or more to arrive, so to keep that in mind when shopping.