Am i being an overly sensitive baby?? lol

You are definitely not being a sensitive baby. You are allowed to feel these feelings as long as you don't go and act bridezilla-y because of them lol

Ugh I totally feel you! We just finished going through the whole RSVP process and ended up with far less people than we anticipated. Over half of my FHs family isn’t coming either and he was a bit upset over it, which was tough. But there’s not much you can do about it, we had a great venting session lol and we’re moving on, excited to celebrate with those that can make it

It's totally normal to feel upset! Don't let it damper your spirits though!

You are definitely not being over sensitive. It does hurt that people you wanted to celebrate aren’t able to make it, but make the most of it and enjoy the day with those that can. I was slightly surprised when I found out none of FH’s family other than his mother and sister cannot make it to the shower. It’s only like 5 people, but it was surprising. I’m hoping for a bunch of no’s because our guest list is too big.

I feel your pain. We wanted an intimate micro wedding so we invited about 75 people thinking we would have 50 guests but the RSVP’s are pretty much back at this point and we are up to 20 people who said yes. A few RSVPs are still out on FH’s side but I’m thinking our wedding will be a lot smaller than we originally planned for. Most of our “no’s” live within 3 hours of us. We have other people who have said yes and are coming from across the country. So it sucks that the people who live closer can’t come. FH and I had a baby last year and our baby shower was the same. My mom threw the shower. 50 people rsvp’ed yes and only 17 showed up. Guess my extended family and friends just suck lol. It is what it is.... Although this kinda makes me wish we would have put our money to a small destination wedding with the small amount of family who show up for family events. FH’s parents live a mile down the road and couldn’t be bothered to come to our sons first birthday party but my mom drove 3 hours to be here. Granted some people have things going on but others just don’t want to make an effort and over time it shows. Either way I think the most important thing is my FH and the relationship and family we build together. When its said and done he will be my husband no matter who shows up.

I think it's reasonable to be sad when family says no. But you can't do can't do anything about it.

View Quoted Comment If anyone in my family did that to my mother I would blacklist them! That was nice of you to extend an invite to your wedding after no showing at your shower. They are lucky to have you. If it were me, it would take a long time to forgive them.

It is perfectly normal to be disappointed. But remember that an invitation is not a summons and while we may not like that a guest declines, we should respect their decision. Just focus on the wonderful time you will have with those who are able to attend! We had more declines than I anticipated but I was thankful for it in the end. I felt like I was able to spend more time with those who were able to attend.

You are entitled to your feelings, however, try to look at it as they are unable to come rather than they are refusing to attend. Like a previous poster said: It is an invite not a summons.

I'm actually hoping for some.. At least people are responding 😂 I'll trade you!

I feel the same way. Just remember it’s not personal. The people who really want to be there will find a way to get there. Your day will be great and all that matters is your day with your fiancé.

I don’t think your being a baby!! I agree with everyone, it’s your special day and if they really wanted to attend they would at least try and make it. Your wedding day is still going to be special regardless of who shows up!!

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I feel like its my last olive branch for some of them. I’ve had family especially on my dads side and one branch of cousins who don’t respond to calls, messages, invitations etc. I’m 35 years old and it’s time for me to stop reaching out to those who have proved over and over again that they can’t be bothered. Just gotta love them from a distance and spend time with those who make an equal effort.

I'm not at that point in the process yet, but I'm sure each "No" will be disappointing and sting a little.

No I think it makes sense to be disappointed by no RSVPs

I think it’s best not to take the declined invites personal, you’ll feel less stress in the long run.

You are not being sensitive or crazy. I can totally understand why’d you feel a little hurt. Try not to stay there and move on with the people who will attend. I’m sure you can still make it a blast with less people. Good luck 😀

I haven’t sent out my invites yet but I’m prepared for the declines. The way we’re looking at it is we’re not going to stress over and worry about the ppl who can’t & choose not to come. It’s just not fair to us or to those who do show up. We need to be happy for those that want to and will be there because they made the effort to celebrate with us. We’re spending a lot of money and putting a lot of time and effort into all the planning so we need to enjoy ourselves and be grateful for those who are there with us. No matter what we’re getting married and it’s going to be a great day. Stay positive!

I wish some of my people would say no.. hahah! just kidding. No its okay to feel a little hurt. Like PPs said as long as you don't take it out on them then its okay. My FH had a few say no and he was super offended but I had to remind him they have a younger child and our wedding is during the school year.

You're fine, don't worry! At first, I was a little bummed but then we got to expand our budget like a full open bar instead of just beer & wine, more desserts, etc. We had 110 "no" RSVPs and 125 "yes".