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Kim
Just Said Yes November 2019

Am i being a bridezilla??

Kim, on August 19, 2019 at 1:41 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 13
So my fiance's parents graciously offered to pay for my fiance's wedding outfit. I was not able to go shopping with him so I gave him the picture i used as inspiration and pictures of each piece he would need (tan shorts and a white button up shirt, very casual beach wedding). He said he liked the outfit and I specifically told him I did NOT want him in a suit, he is not a formal person and I want him to be comfortable and himself on our big day. Also, keep in mind our colors are mint and gold, very light and beachy. He comes home with a tan SUIT, a baby blue dress shirt, the ugliest dark blue Hawaiian print tie, and flip flops!! I am beyond livid that not only did he not get what we both agreed on, but nothing he got matches anything about our day. Am I just being a bridezilla or is this something I should be legitimately upset about? I'm very thankful his parents bought this for him but I dont want him wearing any of it to our wedding, we have to look at these pictures for forever!!

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Latest activity by Lauren, on August 19, 2019 at 5:45 PM
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    Beginner August 2019
    Fatsypatsy ·
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    Girl no. No no no no just no. The way you are acting sounds pretty horrific. A wedding is not supposed to be about colors and themes, it’s supposed to be about marrying the love of your life. You gave him a list of what he is supposed to buy and wear?????!!!! I’m sorry but you need to wake up before he runs for the hills. Do you really think giving him a list of the clothes he is allowed to put on his own body is going to set you guys up for having a happy loving marriage? Sounds incredibly unhealthy and overly controlling.
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  • L. Thomson
    Expert October 2020
    L. Thomson ·
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    How does your fiance feel about the outfit?
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  • D
    Super July 2020
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    Does HE like it? Is he going to be sweating in the suit?
    Honestly I don't think it's a huge deal. Keep the pants, ditch the jacket for the day, buy a white shirt, and different tie. He can wear the suit again.
    I think it's important you like what your partner is wearing but he should like what he's wearing too.
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  • FirstTimeMOB
    October 2018
    FirstTimeMOB ·
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    Ask yourself this question - how would you feel if your fiance' handed you a list of requirements for your wedding gown that you were supposed to follow?

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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·
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    Yeah, I think the key here is whether he got there and realized he really wanted to be in a suit, or his parents talked him into an outfit he doesn't want. I totally get that you had a vision that isn't matching what he came home with, but if it really is something he prefers, you might want to go with it (but maybe change the tie haha)

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  • Futuremrsm
    Expert October 2020
    Futuremrsm ·
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    Sorry love, but I think you may be being a bit of a bridezilla. He went to the store, tried on the outfit and felt comfortable enough in it to buy it. He should buy what makes him feel good. It's his day too and he should be able to choose what he wants to wear, just like you get to choose
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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    I guess it depends if he went to the store and saw something he liked and just went with it and bought everything he liked.....or did he go there and his mom or parents told him what to buy??

    I'll say it is his day to and I think he deserves to wear what he wants and what he feels most comfortable in.

    I think you are being a bit of a bridezilla. Sit down with him and ask him why he picked the outfit even though you talked about it with him before and see what he says

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    All that matters is whether or not he likes it. Assuming he didn't pick your wedding dress, you don't get to dictate his attire either.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    You guys can still work with the suit portion though. He can wear the other stuff separately.
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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
    Concetta ·
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    Absolutely not!! I do not think you are being bridezilla! but did he choose this outfit or did his parents?

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  • DitchingDiaz
    Dedicated November 2020
    DitchingDiaz ·
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    I would ask him if he likes it and if he feels confident in it. You would not accept it if he picked out your dress for your special day, so consider his feelings. However, if he says he likes the suit maybe ask him if he would be okay wearing a white shirt under the tan suit so that it matches a bit better without the tie. I think that would be a more than reasonable compromise.

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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    If you and him had decided on what he would be wearing, what made him change his mind? Is this really what he wants, or did his parents take over? These girls may all say it’s up to him what he wears, but I bet that if their man showed up on their wedding day in a lime green tuxedo when their colors are pastel pink and purple, they would be livid. So while a wedding is all about love, it is also an event that you spend a lot of time and money on. You’re allowed to be upset, but don’t lose your mind over it. Clothes can be exchanged or returned.
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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
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    Like PPs have said, does he like the suit? He could just wear the pants, get a white button down, and tie to match your colors if he really wants to go with that and wear the rest of the clothes he got another time.

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