This isn’t a question regarding WHO I can invite, but rather how I can invite them? My MOH is throwing me a bridal shower with our church women’s group (We’re approaching this in a way similar to a shower thrown by coworkers, since we worked at the church for many years). She made a Facebook event for it. However, many of the people in the group aren’t friends with her on Facebook, and she asked me to add who I wanted to the group. Is it poor etiquette for me to send them an invitation to the event, since I’m the bride and therefore not supposed to host? Even though my MoH is the host, will it still be perceived as gift-grabby?
I would personally want to have a paper invite to a shower! Not many people check their fb's everyday, and sometimes the site/app glitches and you can't see notifications from groups/events that you are in.
Would it be possible to just DIY invites and send them to those that she doesn't have on fb? Or maybe you can give her a list of the people left to invite and she can add them on fb so they can be part of the group? You could notify the ones she's adding onto fb that she's adding them for that reason and to not be alarmed if they see someone they don't know adding them on fb!
Judith has a great idea. I’m glad she’s getting your input on who to invite. My sister is my MOH & I’ve told her what I wanted & who to invite for my bachelorette/ lingerie party. I don’t do the bar thing so that’s out.
I think the best solution is to not make it a Facebook event. Give your MOH a list of names and either addresses or emails of the people you want to be invited, and have her either send out invitations via mail or evites via email.
Mailing physical invitations would be much easier. Not everyone has a FB and those who do don't always check it. By physically mailing invitations, she can make sure everyone gets one whether she knows them or not.
Hey y’all!! I thought I had responded to Shelly but apparently not. The reason we cannot mail invitations is twofold 1.) my MoH waited until the very last minute to throw this together. The shower is scheduled for tomorrow. She’s done nothing but rent a room.2.) and it is a mostly virtual event due to Covid. I understand the etiquette overall, and that mailed is better. Everything is falling apart and while I appreciate your responses, I need a little bit more specific of advice here 😅.
If the shower is tomorrow and these people have not been invited yet, then my advice would be to leave it at that and simply move on. I would be very taken aback to receive a shower invite for the next day (as a guest, I would feel like an afterthought). The good news is that if your wedding is in January and you have a significant number of friends who weren't invited to this shower, then you still have time for somebody else to throw you another shower (if they offer) without the guest list overlapping.
Normally, I would say that it's bad etiquette to invite people, when your MOH is hosting. But in this situation, it sounds like some of the people you want there won't be there unless you invite them.
I also agree that a FB post/group is a poor choice for a shower, but what's done is done. I think under these highly rushed circumstances, it would be fine for you to invite some people that she isn't FB friends with.