So I had always known (before our engagement) that I didn't want to include a unity candle or the sand pouring in our ceremony. Neither of those traditions hold any meaning for me other than something visual for the guests. I had decided on hand fasting as an alternative, not necessarily because of it's celtic roots but perhaps more pagan and because it makes sense to me. I brought this up to my FH and he said that was fine. He is what you would say agnostic so I didn't feel as if this was a huge compromise on his part.
Yesterday, I showed him a video of a hand fasting as a joke. It was a very long, drawn out, wiccan ritual that I thought we could have some chuckles at together. Not because other people's beliefs are to be laughed at but because the thought of US doing that would be hilarious. Well that led to a huge argument because he doesn't want to include a hand fasting at all. Apparently he is already compromising by not having the wedding in a church, (news to me because he has never gone to church, doesn't pray, and told me he didn't want a religious ceremony) and I am not listening to his opinions enough about this wedding. Literally the only other thing I have brought up (besides minute details like decor and colors, which he has agreed on) was that I didn't really want to do a bouquet or garter toss. All of the sudden those things mean a great deal to him and I really don't get where this is coming from. I don't want this to be my wedding, but our wedding.. but I feel as if it's strange that he has such strong opinions on these things all of a sudden. Have any of you experienced anything like this? Am I being crazy? 😅
So, lastly, if we don't do a hand fasting (I will not be including this in the ceremony if he's truly that against it) what other alternatives are there? Besides sand and a unity candle? I want something that makes sense to me but I guess may be more "traditional" in his eyes. I think he is too worried about what an average, cookie cutter wedding looks like. This is meant for us, not others.
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