Alternatives to a Flower Girl

I don't think anyone would think anything of it. If he wants to do it, why not? Sometimes people skip the flower girl and just have 2 ring bearers. People have also had their grandmas be flower girls.

Well I can understand how anyone will feel offended or on edge about it the world is so sensitive now a days so the wording of things is almost life in death now a days. I feel you can do whatever you want of course they are thinking flower boy🧐 but of course you can switch it up everything doesn't have to be traditional so maybe you can delete the flower part and find something a little boy can do walking down the aisle with his little tux on. Or you can just not have that part in your wedding at all. Or maybe you can get like two of your bridesmaids to throw flowers down maybe the first and last bridesmaids. All I'm saying is you having nephews is out of your control but you can definitely emphasize for sure.

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That's basically what I'm dealing with. Trying to find a way to put them both in the wedding like we want. We didn't think anyone would say anything, but the first person I said something to basically tried to stop me from doing it and second guessing my decision.

I want them to be there and a part of the wedding. But trying to find titles and ideas for them is a lot harder. They are only a year apart in age and the older one tends to overshadow the younger one, just because he's older and more talkative. But I want to let them both have their own little time to shine and be important, since they are important to us.

View Quoted Comment I totally understand. Don't let anyone change any ideas you have. Maybe you you can have 1 of them come in with a bell and the other one walk down and say the bride is coming . Or maybe you can have the older brother pull the younger brother in a wagon and let the younger one hold the ring and have the older one say the bride is coming . Just switch up when the ring barrier come in . Like they can come in right before you . You can do it .

Boys could be cute “page boys”!! Look at some youtube clips. You will get some ideas from there.
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I've seen this a bunch of times--if you speak with your nephew (and his parents) and he's down to toss flowers, the weird gender-constrictive views of family members shouldn't matter.

Ring bearer for each ring. Two rings, two boys.

View Quoted Comment Exactly! Why should anyone care that boys are tossing petals? As long as they aren't being forced to do something, there's nothing wrong with it.

Flower girls and ringbearers are 100% optional. No one will miss it or be offended if you don't have anyone to fill the roles.

If the boy wants to toss flowers or the girl wants to carry the ring, go for it. Anyone who gets upset with that has bigger issues to deal with that are not your concern.

You can have your nephews to hand out flowers (example: a rose) to the female guest that may be sitting at the end of each row. It would be romantic, instead of the traditional tossing of pedals.

I can see how your mom would be offended. What does his parents think about it? Or what about having grandmothers do it? Or you can have the nephew maybe walk down and pass out a rose to all the ladies. I've seen this done as well.

I personally wouldn’t do it. And in your post you said you loved traditional weddings. This definitely is not traditional and is probably why you’re having family against it. Officially it’s your wedding you can have it how you want.


But I would go with making them both rung bearers if the idea of having a flower boy is going to offend your family.

I am having my nephew hand out long stem roses to women. Me and my mother thought it gave a romantic touch

I think the most important people you should talk with are the boys' parents! Their opinion matters the most. If they aren't comfortable with it, then you could always just have them be the ring bearers and find another option for a flower girl (such as the grandmothers trend, bridesmaids tossing petals before you walk down, etc). But, if they are okay with it, and the little one is okay with it, then why not go for it! It would be a fun memory and he might feel special having a different 'role' in the wedding than his older brother!

I've never seen it, but I think it's a super cute idea. Like a "petal prince."