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Alternative names for second Maid of Honor

EJHollis, on September 27, 2018 at 3:56 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 12

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As long as my relationships stay the same I would like my sister (she will have just graduated highschool when I get married) and my best friend since 7th grade to have a special part in my wedding party. I have considered having 2 maids of honor (neither will be married). However I would like my sister to be directly next to me and my best friend second. My sister will do what she can and have my best friend to help her. I will call my sister maid of honor but looking at alternative names for my best friend. I dont want to take away from my sister but give my friend credit for the extra work she will do/has already done.
What are some names you all have heard of or used? Asssitant Maid of Honor? Head Bridesmaid? Anything else?

Thanks in advance

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Latest activity by Meganne, on September 27, 2018 at 5:45 PM

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Robert's Wife · on September 27, 2018 at 4:54 AM
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I think having both as Maids of Honor is perfectly fine. They both are very important to you so I think rather than assigning ranking titles which may or may not be "side-eyed", they both will be honored to be your Maids of Honor.
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Judith · on September 27, 2018 at 5:08 AM
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Don't give them ranks. Both are Maids of Honor. If you want to give a special thanks to one, then privately you give her an extra special gift at the end, wedding time.
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Nicole · on September 27, 2018 at 5:57 AM
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I’m having two maids of honors and they just shared in planning the bachelorette and the shower. My sister will stand next to me and the other will be next to her. Having two hasn’t seemed to change anything or effect anything. Just call them both maid of honor
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Maren · on September 27, 2018 at 9:54 AM
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Hi EJHollis! You can definitely have two maids-of-honor!
Like the others mentioned, it works the same. That way, no one is ranked "above" the other, they share tasks, and stand beside you on your wedding day.
Nicole's gives really good advice here in this thread, as she is also planning to have two MOHs, one who is her sister, too.
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Tammy · on September 27, 2018 at 10:06 AM
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I have 2 I call one 'Buddy of Honor' because we've called each other buddy since high school.
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Kristen · on September 27, 2018 at 10:41 AM
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I think you can totally do two Maid of Honor titles. They're both important to you so why should they have different "ranks".
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LaShonda · on September 27, 2018 at 10:49 AM
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Best woman.. sidekick... a pet title u called each other or just ask her
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Kristina · on September 27, 2018 at 10:51 AM
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Just label them both maid of honor. They'll be thrilled. The title is just a formality.
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MrsD · on September 27, 2018 at 1:22 PM
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I would do two MOHs or 1 MOH and a bridesmaid and just have them stand in that order. Assistant MOH or Head BM kind of sounds random since they aren't actually a thing in my opinion. I'm not sure how it would differentiate them either, since the MOH is the one who plans everything.
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Casey · on September 27, 2018 at 1:26 PM
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Both are maids of honor, as the position is all about honoring the one(s) you love most, not awarding a title for "extra credit." It's totally fine to just call both your maids of honor!
FH is having 2 best men, and it's fine.
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EJHollis · on September 27, 2018 at 4:09 PM
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Thanks for all of your responses!
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Meganne · on September 27, 2018 at 5:45 PM
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I also debated this initially as I have 2 younger sisters, although before the youngest was even born, I had already promised the first sister that she would be maid of honor. Since my middle sister is in college and more independent, I feel she is also better qualified to handle any MOH responsibilities, so she is officially MOH. I am just as close with the little sister, so she's definitely a VIP too even though she can't necessarily make too many plans or do too much since she's till in high school, so I dubbed her Assistant *to* the maid of honor (she appreciates The Office reference too).
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