Alternative names for Flower Girl / Ring Bearer

BridesmId? She is 17. Imagine being 17 and being a flower girl.

View Quoted Comment Agreed!!!! You do not have to have a either - make them bridesmaid/groomsmen and they can hand you the rings (which is often what happens anyway, so the ring bearer doesn’t lose the real ring

Yeah they aren’t required. I would Just not have them if you don’t have little kids to do those jobs.

Bridesmaid and groomsman. 17 is WAY too old to even consider flower girl or ring bearer. I was my sister's maid of honor at 17, I would have been hurt and angry to have been ask to have a role typically given to preschoolers and elementary school aged kids.

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Yeah I don’t think 17 year olds should be called flower girl or ring bearer. They are teenagers, not little kids. I would say to make her a bridesmaid and him a groomsmen. Would you have liked to be a flower girl at that age?

My 11 year old niece is too old to be a flower girl, she’s a Jr. Bridesmaid. But seriously, there aren’t any rules to this. You don’t have to have a flower girl or a ring bearer. We’re not having either. In fact, my bridesmaids won’t even be carrying flowers. You can switch things up. If you really feel the needf or a flower girl, then it really should be someone closer to the toddler age.

Or another option, I did see a cute post about someone having their Grandmothers be the flower girls. It was super sweet! And it included someone in the bridal party who normally wouldn’t be.

I was even a Bridesmaid at 13 and I would have been pretty offended, not to mention embarrassed, to be a flower girl at that age. If someone asked me to be a FG today, I wouldn’t care and I’d have fun doing it. But being a teenager is tough and image and wanting to appear more grownup is everything.

Why did you decide to have her and your brother in law be flower girl/ring bearer? Just curious/looking for a little more context.

While it's your wedding, and you can have whatever kind of wedding party that you like, I would also consider how your sister is feeling. It doesn't seem like she's comfortable with this role, and I'm not sure if changing the title will make her feel better about it (unless she's said as much).

My much younger sister is going to be my maid of honor, and my little cousin (who will be 14 at the time of our wedding) is going to be a bridesmaid. My FH's goddaughter will be 8 when we get married, and she'll be the flower girl. We will not have a ring bearer.

I think making them ring bearer and flower maid are perfectly fine.
We are asking FH brothers to be flower kid and ring security for us and they are both totally excited. They will be 13 and 11 at oir wedding.

Thanks guys for all the responses !
Heres a little more back story. We are getting married in Vegas. I already have 7 bridesmaids and groomsmen, a hostess. 2 ushers, and in just trying to find a way for them to be included. My fiance and I have 10 years difference on them so while we aren't the closest per say (shes still my sister I love her obviously) I just dont want them to feel left out as there will be only 3 people at my wedding under 21.

View Quoted Comment My sister and I ate 6 years apart I was a BM for her wedding. My 11 year old niece is a JR BM for my wedding. I will be 38 and my other next eve 21 will be a BM.

View Quoted Comment Do they want to?

Yeah! They just wanted us to come up with different names

View Quoted Comment Definitely. They wanted to be involved and when we asked them to be our flower kid and ring bearer they were very excited. We won't be having kids younger than them at our wedding. My 16 year old brother will however be a groomsman.

View Quoted Comment But the thing is is she does not want to. Changing the name is not going to make her feel any better. I get the bride has this dream in her head. But other people have feelings. Hers could be hurt she could feel undermined cause you are having her do a role that is primarily done by kids. Number two what dress are you going to put her in. She is to big to fit into any traditional flower girl dress.

View Quoted Comment That is different. They want to. The 17 year old does not.

View Quoted Comment She and I have already gone to David's Bridal and had her dress ordered. It's very similar to my bridesmaid dresses except in the fact that it is short. I was not ever under the intent of making her wear "child wear". It will be the same dress as my hostess is wearing.
I appreciate your concern , but her only adversity was to the title. Shes happy to be a part of my wedding.

You could call her a Jr Bridesmaid because she will be the only "underaged" one. Then it is still a more grown up title while not being the same as your friends who are much older.

My best friend's younger sister is 21 and is BEGGING to be a flower girl. haha. So I don't think its weird or "wrong" to do that if she's comfortable with it. It has nothing to do with age. But it seems like she's not, so maybe let her pick (or have input on) what her title is

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