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Sara
Expert June 2019

Alternative bouquet toss with breakaway bouquets?

Sara, on May 2, 2019 at 4:18 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 6

Hey all! We aren't doing a garter toss, and I had been pretty excited to do an alternative bouquet toss that seemed way more like FH and me. Here's what the "community toss" would look like:

We would invite ALL 135 guests to the floor, FH and I would say a brief statement thanking our guests for joining us, supporting us, and being our community, then all of my bridesmaids turn around and toss 150 loose short-stemmed carnations to everyone. In theory, this all sounded really cool and touching. Now, I'm actually thinking about it and I'm not so sure about it.

Do I really want to purchase all of those extra flowers? ($125 for 150 white carnations from Sam's Club). These are not the flowers we're using for bouquets (artificial), centerpieces (hydrangeas from sam's club), etc. - the carnations would be additional.

What if it isn't as big a hit as I pictured in my head? Will my guests think it's touching and memorable, or just a little confusing?

Will it be messy? I don't know if my caterer will be cool with potentially sweeping up a bunch of flower bits, and the venue said "no flower petal decor".... hmm. (Maybe it won't be messy? The object here is togetherness, NOT pushing/ trampling.)

I don't know, it seemed really unique and memorable and fits our vibe and personalities, and I was pretty excited thinking about it until now. But now it's time to make some purchases and talk to the venue/ caterer, and I'm thinking maybe I should skip it.

The venue is a reception hall at a historic gallery. Indoor, hardwood floor, high ceilings. Adults only, no kids at the wedding.

What do you think...?


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Latest activity by Alicia, on May 3, 2019 at 9:06 AM
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    Expert June 2019
    Afterallthistime...Always ·
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    What if it isn't as big a hit as I pictured in my head? Will my guests think it's touching and memorable, or just a little confusing?

    I personally would find this confusing. Having that many guests out on the dance floor will be very crowded. Plus, your bridesmaids would have to have pretty good arms for throwing the flowers to reach the back of the crowd.

    Will it be messy? I don't know if my caterer will be cool with potentially sweeping up a bunch of flower bits, and the venue said "no flower petal decor".... hmm. (Maybe it won't be messy? The object here is togetherness, NOT pushing/ trampling.)

    This will 100% be messy. Leaves/petals will fall. People will probably leave their flowers somewhere and not take them with them. To me this sounds like extra trash. Also, if your venue says no flower petal decor, then I think this is an obvious no.



    Overall this seems like a cute idea, but I think the logistics don't quite work. Especially if your venue says no flower petal decor.

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  • Littlebride
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    Maybe if you tell the crowd that there's enough flowers for everyone they wont go crazy.. or maybe if you break it up into groups. Do kids and then women and then men... ( but this may make the event take longer)
    I also see pl going cray cray so anything to make it less chaotic would help.
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  • Mcskipper
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    I’m a bit confused on how this would work “toss” wise— are they really just walking around handing flowers to everyone? This seems a little hectic all crowded together but could work more at tables (if you have a lot of bridesmaids haha) . Otherwise are they just throwing them into a crowd? Definitely messy. Plus I’d think not everyone would be inclined to try to “catch” one, so you’ll end up with many on the floor. Also then worth noting that plenty of people, especially if they’re staying in a hotel, won’t want to or have he means to keep the flower and bring it home— so I’d expect you’d end up with a lot of flowers leftover on tables , kind of like how people warn with favors. With something biodegradable like flowers id also be a little worried about people walking outside with them on their way out but realizing they don’t have anything to do with them and then just discarding them in the parking lot (hopefully not but you never know!).... but I can’t quite picture what exactly you’re describing so maybe my concerns aren’t quite founded!
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  • Mandy
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    I just picture being hit in the head by elbows and flowers. Then flowers on the floor being stomped on as people walk away. It will get messy.

    We're handing my bouquet to the longest married couple at our wedding. Nothing too extreme.. maybe just a "stand up if you've been married 5 years, then 10 years, etc" to see the last one standing. Then maybe a short spill about how marriage is long term or let them say a few words on marriage.

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  • Jennifer
    Expert October 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    Just put the flowers at the place settings. That's 100% easier and no mess. Tossing them will definitely result in someone getting pelted with 20 flowers, other people barely seeing the flowers, and flowers on the floor.
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  • Alicia
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    I second this!

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