OK, so I'm about 7 weeks out, and trying to get the ceremony details in order. I've seen many different iterations of walking down the aisle, but would love some personalized suggestions. Here's what you should know:
This is a two-bride, feminist, queer wedding. We are trying to keep it small, laid back, and fun. We're looking at around 100 guests, and we're having an outdoor fall wedding in the Blue Ridge mountains with whole-hog BBQ, a fire pit, etc. We're doing mostly DIY (music, flowers, hair/makeup, etc), friends are serving as officiant and stage manager/DOC, and we are skipping anything that's not important to us, such as a traditional wedding cake (we're having cupcakes) and a wedding party.
As for walking down the aisle: we are not comfortable with having our fathers "give us away" because: patriarchy, and we're both much closer with our moms than our dads. I am particularly not close with my father (I see him 1-2x a year), and on top of that, he has some health problems and is currently using a walker and physically can't walk me even if I wanted him to. Also my parents are divorced and my dad (only) is remarried. So anything that includes my mom but not dad might hurt his feelings, and anything that includes both my parents but not my stepmom might hurt hers.
Since we don't have a wedding party or ring bearer or flower kiddos, I have no clue what our processional should look like. Should our parents all walk down before us? Should our friend who is officiating make an entrance down the aisle, or already be in place?
Some options we're considering for us:
-- walk down the aisle together
-- walk down two side aisles separately and meet in the middle (love this but we probably don't have enough space to do it)
-- walk the aisle solo
-- walk with each of our moms (but this might make dads feel left out) and drop them off at their seats
Any other creative ideas? Alternatives? Suggestions appreciated!
