All this wedding stuff

Honestly, you're over a year out any don't need to be nervous at all! Yes, he should start thinking about his list, but at this point in your planning, an agreed upon estimated number from both sides is enough in my opinion. E.g. we're not having more than 100 number of people, 30 will be from my family, 30 from your family, 30 friends, and we'll leave a few spots open for anyone we initially forgot. Think of it this way - if he finishes his guest list tomorrow, what are you going to do with it? Nothing really until you send out save the dates, right?

My FH DRAGGED his feet with all of the tasks he took on. I made a checklist for each month with everything that needed to be done that month to spread out our spending, and that gave him a bit more of a reason to do things in a timely manner. He also asked if we could schedule an hour to sit at the table and solely talk about wedding stuff so that I don't randomly ask him to do something. Stay calm and keep on planning!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for that. I only want him to get his guest list done because we have to get everyone’s addresses that we don’t already have and he did say he has to ask almost all of his family for their addresses. I just overthink things a lot

At this point, you just need a list of names of your VIPs. As in no obligatory invites..only those who are your must haves whom you cannot imagine the day without. That is the guest count you use to focus on finding a venue. Anyone not on the list gets an announcement after the wedding is over. Save the dates don't need to be sent until 6-8 months before. You can collect addresses anytime between now and then via phone call/text/email or asking relatives/friends.

I wouldn't worry. Just give him a deadline if you plan to do save the dates by 9 months out. Of he still doesn't give you a list then oh well.

The only reason I could see worrying right now about the guest list is because you will need to know roughly how many people will be attending to make sure you pick a venue large enough to accommodate everyone. Otherwise you don't need all of this information for a wedding that is still nearly two years away.

You have nearly 2 years before your wedding, so you have plenty of time. Right now, the most important thing is to get a rough headcount so that you can ensure you find an appropriate sized venue. But exact figures and addresses can wait. Also, I know for us, my mom and his mom had a lot of family addresses, so we got those from them. Also, if you know someone hasn't moved in awhile and you know the town or general area, you may be able to find the mailing address on white pages, particularly if they own their own home.

I totally understand but you have plenty of time. My parents planned a wedding in 2 months and I'm planning one in 8 months and it's went smooth. So take a deep breath and have some wine 🤣

View Quoted Comment No wine for me, I’m pregnant

View Quoted Comment Omg yay!! Congrats momma

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I'm getting on to my FH about tracking down people for addresses as well. I wanted to send our Save the Dates out for Valentine's Day and out of 160 people, we have only 65 addresses. Try giving him a deadline? We're using Zola.com and I just had him to download the app and send links to his people that way.

You've got some time so try not to stress too much. I love your hair color in your avi too!

View Quoted Comment Thanks I’ll definitely do that. And thanks it was a bleach job gone wrong but I did end up liking it

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LOL that's how I end up with most of my colors - they never come out how I plan but I enjoy them anyway.

Do you have friends or family to help? I am ocd and created a Google sheet for everything. I break it down by venue, guest list, catering, flowers? Photography, entertainment, hotels, decorations, bridal costs, groom costs, officiant fees, gifts, etc. Create it however you like.. Pull in some columns.. Like venue names, address, website, main contact, phone number, cost breakdown, whether it's available in your date, what's included, etc. Hope that helps!! 😘

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Google Sheets has a template they have already created that is broken down into sections where you simply add your own info

View Quoted Comment That's awesome. I am ocd to create my own and pivot tables and such 🤣 amongst other features for a few ppl that view it and add their comments in the family as well lol.

I went old school and bought an address book and have it all in there. I had most of the addresses I needed and my mother gave me what I didnt have. I gave the other half a list and told him to get the addresses we need. He hasnt yet LOL Ill remind him or just use his phone to message who I need!

Hi, this happened to me too lol. But we were able to adjust everything with vendors. He initially lowballed 30 guests, then 50 guests, and the final number was 75. Vendors r usually okay adding but never substracting. I'd commit to a number on the lower end and adjust later

Ohh btw his mom helped me! Ask his mom

View Quoted Comment That’s good to know thank you