All of the NOPE - Etiquette Fails

I don't think it's too late to find chairs for the ceremony and to pick up the tab for the welcome party, but everything else is a big nope.

The coordinator at our venue said something about how he had recently been seeing more "standing ceremonies". I told him I want chairs for everyone. He looked relieved... apparently this is becoming a thing... a terrible thing.

No chairs is the dumbest idea to save money. How do people even think that's okay?

I was relieved when I learned that chairs were already included in my wedding package, so I didn't have to pay extra.

She deserves the backlash she will get.

I have never seen a 'standing ceremony" for more than a 5 minute elopement. That coordinator needs to be canned.

I am so glad I found WW before I got married and didn't have a "standing" ceremony. It was a low point guys, but I got some sense knocked into me and rented enough chairs for every butt. So glad now that I focused on the comfort of my guests.

She also made some lovely comments about her BM's not being "into it" enough, and how she'd probably never speak to them after the wedding because they just don't care.

Her FSIL is making her decorations and handwriting her invitation addresses.

Also upset that friends from HS / College in a different state aren't making the effort to fly to the muddy field for her wedding, when she made time for their weddings in the past. Claims she will probably write them off forever. Yikes.

I see nothing wrong with handwriting her invitation addresses. It's a piece of paper that's going to be thrown away. Just sayin.

Wow. I was shocked and annoyed when I got an invite the other day for a wedding with a 3.5 hour gap. This... this makes me grateful that that's all I have to deal with.

@Mrs Sullivan it's not the handwriting. It's that she's expecting her FSIL to work for her wedding that I take issue with.

My FMIL suggested a standing wedding because 1) our wedding ceremony will be short and 2) there is literally 15 people at the wedding ceremony. I'm like no effing way. Not happening.

Does her FSIL want to do it though ? for example - my FMIL writes beautifully and she will be doing my invitation addresses... she is not required to do so, but when I asked her if she would be interested doing it because I really like her handwriting, she was very happy and willing. (this was for me to make her feel involved since my fiancé and I are planning it ourselves.)

Oh, she's not doing it herself. I thought this whole post was about the same person. Got it.

I don't understand the whole standing ceremony idea, especially when it could be a bajillion degrees out. I would probably bring a personal fan to that wedding.