So, long story short, me and my FH don't make a ton of money (me = 20k/yr, him = 24k/yr, working on that) and I have a bunch of student loans, but he has this $6000 debt that I'm not going to go into but it's really holding us back. Once we pay it off, we will have so much more freedom and he's been dealing with this for the past 12 years. All we want for a wedding present is to not have to deal with this horrible thing from his past that this debt is still dragging on to our future. We've both agreed that this would honestly be the best wedding present ever to have this stupid debt off our backs and not have to start our life together with it hanging over us.
We have a small Ikea registry for a new bedroom set and some dishes and such and a honeyfund for cash gifts (we're just going up north for our honeymoon $500 max) but we want to move into a bigger apartment sooner than later so really don't want stuff. How do you politely/tactfully say that you would honestly prefer cash gifts? I don't want to be a jerk but we just don't need any more stuff that we're just going to have to pack and move. Honestly, wouldn't that be easier for people?
Plus I have a bridal shower coming up too and I don't know how to deal with that for gifts either. Help.