Meg
Dedicated February 2018

"All guests to the dancefloor"

Meg, on December 4, 2017 at 1:34 PM Posted in Planning 0 20
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I recently went to a wedding where riiight after the couple's first dance, the dj announced "for this next song, the bride and groom ask that EVERYONE please join them and come dance...at least just for this first song." and he playfully coaxed nearly everyone to crowd the dance floor for that first group dance. It was so fun and I noticed afterwards, most people stayed dancing! So.. it was a cute way to get the party started and encouraged dancing by getting everyone out there right away. What would be a cute song for this..to kick things off? So far my ideas are "I'm a believer" or "Shout"... but those are both prerty fast paced..

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Latest activity by Mrs. Fall Bride, on December 4, 2017 at 5:29 PM
  • RustyTheDog
    Dedicated December 2017
    RustyTheDog ·
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    Yeah I find it awkward and like you are obligating your guests to dance. My mom got guilted into doing this and she doesn't believe in dancing in public for religious reasons so she was NOT happy. Even without offending people, this just seems awkward. If people like the song, they will get up and dance. If they don't want to, don't guilt them into doing it.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    My teeth grind and I just absolutely hateeeeeeee group dance songs. We told our DJ only if the crowd wasn't dancing to bring it out. Our dance floor was kind of empty early in the night so the DJ announced that he needed everyone to get up because we were pulling out a fun song (the only group dance I approved was the Cupid Shuffle because my sister's super super super stern, stoic, FH goes HARD when it comes on and it's a sight to see!). As soon as it came on our dance floor was packed! Honestly, when everyone knows the dance or there is someone super into it trying to teach other people it's so much fun

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  • melbooks
    Devoted April 2017
    melbooks ·
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    What song did that dj play? I think "Good to be Alive" by Andy Grammer is a fun upbeat song.

    If you would like everyone to join, Cupid Shuffle is a good one that some people go all out with.

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  • Kallie
    Super November 2017
    Kallie ·
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    We did this. Our DJ called it a good luck dance and told our guests something about the more people out on the dance floor the more luck we'd have in our marriage. He didn't coax or force people that didn't want to dance though. I honestly can't remember the song he played, but it was a lot of fun and did get a lot of people out there dancing. Just make sure your DJ isn't overly pushy.

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  • Katie
    Expert October 2018
    Katie ·
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    Our DJ recommended a "couples dance" to a popular slower song. We were thinking about doing Stand By Me and then moving into a line dance like the Cupid Shuffle or Cha Cha Slide. To help encourage people to move around but not be pushy about it. He said 95% of the weddings he's done usually require something along those lines to break the ice.

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  • Meg
    Dedicated February 2018
    Meg ·
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    Thanks everyone. Yes I also hate quote-group dances like the Electric Slide etc.. i agree pushing people to dance would be annoying, ill make sure im clear with the dj. I would want it to be like @Kallie said, it's a quick comment like "for good luck how about everyone comes out for this first dance? Please..?...pause..." *start music*

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  • Meg
    Dedicated February 2018
    Meg ·
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    @ Mrs. Fall Bride thank u, any song suggestions?

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  • hannahdee
    Super June 2018
    hannahdee ·
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    I personally don't think it's cute, if the dj is good, people will want to dance. I went to a wedding this summer it was in a backyard wedding and it was 100 outside and the dj was trying to get us to dance and it made me soooo annoyed

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  • Kristin
    Dedicated July 2018
    Kristin ·
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    Omg this would NOT go well at my wedding. We are giving specific instructions to the DJ to ONLY use the microphone to make important announcements. He is definitelty NOT to use it to urge and coax anyone to do anything. My FH does not dance and our wedding will not be an exception. He will only dance to slow songs. Several of his friends don't like to dance either. We have several guests with disabilities. We have plenty of guests, and myself, who will be tearing up the dance floor all night with no need for coaxing. The DJ better leave the others be.

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  • B
    Expert July 2017
    Becky ·
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    I honestly would stay in my seat just to be contrary if the DJ did this at a wedding we were attending - but that's just me.

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  • Deirdre
    Super March 2018
    Deirdre ·
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    I am a dancing fool. One of my friends has changed the expression of dance like no one's watching to dance like you are Deirdre. I'm going to have him say that when we kick off dancing and then we are going to play Shut Up and Dance. We aren't doing any coaxing from the DJ. I'm hoping everyone will get up and dance (I come by my dancing foolishness honestly, so I know at least my family will be out there), but is seen as more cute and personal as opposed to pushy.

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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
    firstoneat56 ·
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    While I personally hate this song, our DJ played "I Wanna Dance With Somebody"by Whitney Houston before we entered the room and the coordinator told us practically everyone was on the dance floor already. Most people love this song and enjoy dancing to it. It's kind of a "call to action." I love @Mrs.FallBride's suggestion of Montell Jordan - it's one of my favorites at weddings. Just about any Motown song will get people up. "Love Train" is a good one too.

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  • ashlynnisabella
    Devoted December 2017
    ashlynnisabella ·
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    We did a 'bridal party' dance where our bridal party either danced with their significant others, or they danced with another single member of the bridal party. The song we used was 'Thinking Out Loud.' Halfway through, the DJ asked everyone to join. Most everyone did, and then when it was over, he played the Cha Cha Slide, and everyone danced for hours!

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
    JoRocka ·
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    I wouldn't get up and dance right away- and most people won't either- especially not after a "ceremonial" part of the night (and while the first dance isn't a ceremony- it's definitely *a thing*) I certainly wouldn't- most people need to warm up into it.

    I think if it happens later on in the night- maybe- but honestly the people who want to dance- will dance- the people who don't- won't. IMHO forcing it is annoying.

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  • B
    Expert July 2017
    Becky ·
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    @MFB - not everyone reacts well to being told what to do or "pushed" or "playfully coaxed" - in fact it can make a lot of people really uncomfortable - so when they start saying everyone "has to," I'm not going to

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
    JoRocka ·
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    Some people have a very visceral reaction to being told what to do. Like if you say don't do it- they automatically will do the opposite.

    I can't fault her for that. I am like that to some extent to- the second you tell me to do something and I have any question about WHY I'm doing it- or don't understand- or don't want to- I'm like nope. nope nope.

    There is a name for it. I can't remember- but yeah- #strugglebus is real on that one.

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  • B
    Expert July 2017
    Becky ·
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    Exactly @JoRocka - tell me to do it - it's not gonna happen

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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
    firstoneat56 ·
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    This is about dancing at a wedding, not about eating your vegetables. I don't think the DJ is going to go around with a cattle prod.

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
    JoRocka ·
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    That's not the point. I go to dance training. THAT I PAY FOR.

    And sometimes my teacher asks me to do something and I don't know why- or I have my own opinions about the validity of it- and I get really fucking salty about it- for no good god damn reason.

    And I'm PAYING to be there to learn. It's not about context sometimes- it's about someone telling you what to do. And I'm not kidding you- it's visceral. Like instant and straight from the gut heels in the ground not doing it type reaction.

    Is it manageable? sure.

    Personally I've learned enough about myself to talk myself off the ledge- but it's a pretty powerful reaction that sometimes isn't one you go out of your way to have.

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  • spring 2017
    Devoted May 2017
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    In the middle of the night/ right after cake cutting, my band invited people to a dance-off of sorts. I have several people in my family who love to be the center of attention, so it worked well. I have fabulous pictures of many dancing folks and received several comments afterwards on how much fun it was.

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