All Bridesmaids out of state

Nothing. Bridal party shows up for the wedding in the dress that is chosen (within the budget they provide you). If they offer a shower, bachelorette, that's great. If not, maybe someone else will.

I would think it would depend on what you are comfortable "outsourcing".....what you are comfortable not seeing in progress? It's kind of a leap of faith? If you work out favors (if you make them yourself) maybe that? I'm a little bit too much of a control freak to trust that kinda stuff lol

All of mine are out of state, most things they've offered to do instead of me asking them to do things. My one bridesmaid is super crafty so I asked if she could make a banner to put at my ceremony that says Aloha and she's been having fun with that. I've also talked to them about things and gotten their opinions on things and ideas. I try to keep them in the loop by sending pictures and such. But other than that, I don't think there is much they can do, they're not going to help stuff invitations or make my menus or anything. I'm just happy to have them the day of the wedding!

When my friend who lives in SC got married, her MOH and family lived in DC, 2 bridesmaid friends lived in NJ and 2 SIL's lived in Chicago. We had her shower & bachelorette party the same weekend in DC where her MOH and family was friend. Her fiance's family flew in for it, Jersey girls drove. Don't know if your situation is similar, but thought it may help.

Really they are just there to be part of your day. They pay for/wear the dress you pick and show up. My bridesmaids are mostly out of the area of the wedding place, and all I am really expecting is them to buy their dress-(off amazon, about $80) otherwise I just want them there because I love them and they are all part of my life and special to me. My MOH and bridesmaids all freakin rock though, so they have really been sweethearts and super helpful.

If they want to help, they might be able to help with anything that needs to get prepared a day or two before the wedding. When I got married, I lived in PA, wedding was in MA and bridesmaids were in MA, VT, Iowa, GA and the Czech Republic. I picked an affordable dress from David's Bridal and 4 of them were able to go with me to try on dresses. My friend in the Czech Republic measured herself and ordered online. They all helped me with putting together favors/escort cards about 2 days before my wedding because everyone was in Massachusetts by that point.

3 of my 8 bridesmaids are coming to my family shower, but the other 5 couldn't. I probably am not having a bachelorette party or a friend's shower, and all I asked them to do was get their dress and flights. I'm paying for their sleeping arrangements.

Depending on where they are they can still plan the shower, if they want. and hopefully attend to host. I have 10 BM and they live in 6 different states. Group text and Pinterest has to be your friend. I would start asking if theirs a time in 2015 where you all be in the same location. For example 8/10 BMs will all be in Florida during Thanksgiving so thats when my shower will be that weekend. Its super early since the wedding is 4 months from then but its most convenient.

Thanks everyone!

I have an out of town BM, and I just asked her to buy her dress, gas to get here and I asked her to help on the day of with being in charge of handing out the tips. That way she can feel involved and not have it be complicated.