All about the bride(zilla)?

I do think that some brides can go a little overboard in what they expect from friends or family. While I'd love to only invite the people I want and only do what I wanna do, I don't have that luxury. Also, I want everyone to enjoy my wedding. For one, my FH and I don't drink hardly ever, but we're still having alcohol at our wedding because we know most of our guests do drink. I'm trying to make the wedding party attire as affordable as possible, and I don't really expect much in terms of pre wedding events. We didn't have an engagement party, I don't really want a bachelorette party, but a small bridal shower would be nice. I think it's all about finding a balance, but at the same time a bride will (hopefully) never get to have another wedding so I understand wanting to have it a certain way.

View Quoted Comment I agree with that. Lol, I think we're all that way, wanting it a certain way, but from firing bridesmaids, to not including family or friends (outside of some real psychos I've read about) to expecting bridesmaids to pay for over the top get aways. I just feel like it's bratty behavior

I don’t know, I usually feel bad for both sides. A lot of brides grew up dreaming of their fairytale wedding since they were children, it sucks when a real life wedding doesn’t match the picture in their head but how often does anything live up to our vision?
At the same time some of these guests are just trying to be there for their loved ones, not everyone can step in and pay for everything or plan parties or whatever, it’s not realistic.

The whole reason FH and I didn’t elope was so we could host our guests. Our loved ones have been the biggest cheerleaders for our relationship, the reception is really just for them. I spent more time on the menu and music than I did on my wedding dress! We really want it to be special for them just as much as us. I don’t know if I’ve done a good job, we’ll see. The point is if I just wanted to marry FH and have our special day I would’ve stuck to our elopement plan of marrying on a romantic island. Instead we dialed back our vision WAAAY back! It’s in the same town as guests because we couldn’t find my dream venue within reasonable driving distance for guests. If they don’t love it I’m going to be pretty sad because I chose it for their comfort.

Yea I think some people on here sound like they expect too much. But some also sound like they're genuinely having issues with those people.

Nope not crazy. Even if I didn't agree with you itsnt not crazy. I do happen. To agree though. People say the wedding is all about he bride and groom but it shouldn't be because a marriage isnt. It effects everyone around you. And so does a divorce.

View Quoted Comment This is awesome.

View Quoted Comment It's going to be awesome. From what I've read/seen you seem really fun, nice, and happen to have an awesome aesthetic. I'm sure your friend and family will love it!

View Quoted Comment Aw thank you! FH keeps reminding me at the end of the day we’ll be married so even if -everything- goes wrong it doesn’t matter. Gotta love his positive attitude lol

I sooo get what you are saying. I read through posts and too often there will be that famous phrase , "do what you want, it's your day". As if there are no consequences or backlash to choices.
I'm just relieved to know how much headache we are skipping doing our best to include everyone on our day. Their comfort and happiness adds to ours.